i am still very new to cafemom and feeling my way around and yet this type of bravery is exactly why i joined! i am so proud to be included in a very fine group of ladies who daily over and over show why being a mom is the best job of all. and especially to the lady with a little boy who came to her and had the courage to tell the way she felt so both her inside and her outside could start to mesh: my child is also expressing himself in many ways as a girl. he has been since about 4-5years old expressing that he feels he is a girl and i give him room to explore this as an option because i love him/her more than an outdated idea of gender roles.and to reject a small childs view seems hypocritical, unproductive, or even harmful to the childs esteem. a chance i am not willing to take. i try to leave my prejudice at the door of our interactions. i want my child to be truly able to come to me with anything and just talk. now, this doesnt mean there is carte blanche to act any old way because we are confidants.. i am not my childs friend i am his/ her parent and i have a responsibility to protect and guide. which i can only do effectively with as much information as i can muster.and for that i must know whats going on in that little red head... its hard and will only get harder but i know god wont give me anything i cant handle.. sometimes.i just wish he didnt trust me so much.