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Send your kid to daycare he said...ETA

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My sons pedi advised us to send our LO to daycare so he can develop social skills. He was 13 months at the time. I feel like I'm depriving him of that but everyone around me says he is doing great and is best at home with me. We are living comfortably enough for me to stay home with my LO and I want to know how many mamas did NOT send their children to daycare or anything of that sort and had kids with fine social skills. Should add he does not have any cousins and is the first born of his generation. We're waiting on family to bring more kids into the family.

ETA: I looked into some of the options mothers gave. The local YMCA closed in may of 2012 here, and our library does have story time. I found a Montessori play group, and contacted them. I had no idea this post would become featured. It's going to take me a while to reply but thank to you all of you mamas who remained respectful.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:44 AM
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by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 10:47 PM

It is definitly a personal choice my son has been in a daycare for 7 months now and it has helped him but every child is different you have to do what you think is right for ur child :)

by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 10:47 PM

None of mine went to daycare. They are all well adjusted, speaking and social.

by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 10:52 PM
never even considered sending my kids to daycare for socializing
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by Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 10:56 PM
I have 3 kids and am a SAHM with them. All my kids are very social, my daughter is a little shy sometimes but very rarely. I think your LO will be just fine!
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 27, 2013 at 10:59 PM
Yes I teach my son the way that I taught other kids throughout the years. He's still young to not need a structure but to understand more around him.

Quoting jyurina:

Do you talk to your child? Does he go shopping with you? Does he interact with kids at the park and the adults he meets when heis out and about? Then he IS getting socialized. I have been a preschool Montessori teacher for well over a decade-and started before my son was born. He went to preschool and my daughter didn't because I stayed home for a while and then my hubby and I worked opposite schedules so we could be home with the kids. Both kids are fine and well socialized. The kids who really need the daycare are the ones who stay home exclusively with serious helicopter parents. If they never interact with anyone outside of home not only do they not gain social skills but mom and dad are clueless as to normal developmental behaviour. These are the kids we see coming into class who are 3 and 4 years old and are not dressing themselves, demanding everything be done for them, and showing antisocial behaviour like biting and hitting. Just get out there with your son-it's fun and he will be better socialized by being around a wide variety of people than just being around his same age group.

by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:05 PM

I sent my oldest to day care when she was younger only because I had to work, and with my youngest, she stayed home with me until she could attend head start (which she loves going to!) It's pretty much up to you. Just because a pediatrician has "suggested" something does NOT mean you have to abide by it, it is only their opinion. Do what is best and what will work for you and your family.

by Anonymous 98 on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:09 PM
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Ok, one thing in this post really bugs me. No, not about mom, but about the pediatrician!! What is a pediatrician's job? The pediatrician is a MEDICAL doctor, who advises about the MEDICAL care of babies and children! Sure, if he or she notices something out of the realm of medical care (for instance behavioral) that is cause for great concern, or the parents bring up such a concern, this medical specialist can provide referrals to another appropriate specialist in that area of concern! A medical professional has no business interfering with parenting styles, at all, period! (unless there is suspicion of abuse, of course, but that's not what this is about). In other words, whatever "advise" your pedi gives you that is not medical, let it go! It's not their field, they know little more about it than you or I! If your eye specialist told you your baby has an ear infection and should take antibiotics, would you believe them? No, of course not! This is no different!

At best, your pediatrician is just telling you his or her own personal parenting beliefs. Your neighbor could do the same thing, and would bear the weight! 

This being said, there are many homeschooled children who have never been to preschool or any other school, and are very social children and later adults. I homeschool my kids, and while my oldest did go to preschool for 1 year (then didn't want to go anymore), and insisted on going to public school the first part of this school year (and again, wanted to come back home), my youngest has never set a foot in any day school, ever! They are 7 and 8 years old, and are both very social with adults and children of all ages! They both get plenty of opportunities to be around other kids (and adults too) throughout the week, in the classes and activities they do, and in our local homeschool weekly play group.

Do what feels right for you and your family, and follow your pediatrician's medical advice (assuming you've got a good one), and leave his or her parenting "advise" at the office!

Good luck.

by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:12 PM
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There are things you can do with your child that can still socialize him.  There are playgroups and gymnastics has toddler time.  I didn't send my kids to daycare.  They went to preschool when they turned 4.  My oldest is very social and my second is not at all, very shy.  I think it more depends on the child and their personality.

by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:17 PM
My son is ten months and he is going NOWHERE near a daycare. As long as you're helping him developing skills at him he'll be fine. Ugh I dont like new school docs they always trying to make you drop your child off somewhere. mind you im not knocking the mommies who choose differently. I would not stress it. Enjoy your time with your child while hes still small. Good luck!
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by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:22 PM

Check out and find local mom's groups.... you will find great friends to have playdates with!  For both mom and kids!  

I sent DD at a little over 2 when she started showing sighns that she really really really wanted it..... and I had just had #2 and was a little more stuck at home.  She loved it.  #2 only went when we had speech issues and I freaked and started putting him in anything I thought would help..... it did!  He also loves it!  I did what I did based on my childs individual personalities..... if you would have asked me this before I did it I would have said never. I don't leave them in all day though since I am at home.  

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