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Send your kid to daycare he said...ETA

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My sons pedi advised us to send our LO to daycare so he can develop social skills. He was 13 months at the time. I feel like I'm depriving him of that but everyone around me says he is doing great and is best at home with me. We are living comfortably enough for me to stay home with my LO and I want to know how many mamas did NOT send their children to daycare or anything of that sort and had kids with fine social skills. Should add he does not have any cousins and is the first born of his generation. We're waiting on family to bring more kids into the family.



ETA: I looked into some of the options mothers gave. The local YMCA closed in may of 2012 here, and our library does have story time. I found a Montessori play group, and contacted them. I had no idea this post would become featured. It's going to take me a while to reply but thank to you all of you mamas who remained respectful.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:44 AM
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DonnaPinitonya
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:52 AM
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I can't afford day care anymore so I sign DD1 up for activites through the city. Look into those, the cost less and run shorter so you can try different things. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:53 AM
There are no kids his age I can arrange for them with. He sees them at the park or at the store, etc.


Quoting Byrd15:

My 2 siblings and I never did, and my children won't. It's a personal choice.

Why not have play dates? In your own home for a few hours a week, those are always fun! <3

luckystars2012
by Silver Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:53 AM
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I have almost always worked so my DD has been in daycare.  What I can tell you is that I spend a lot of time volunteering at my DDs kindergarten class, and in general the kids with the most social issues are the kids who have not been in a social setting with other kids. 

Playdates simply arent enough.  you dont have to put yoru kid in daycare full time, but a half day a couple of times a week makes a big difference.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:54 AM
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That's a good idea his father and I would like for him to be in some kind of sport when he's older. His choice though


Quoting DonnaPinitonya:

I can't afford day care anymore so I sign DD1 up for activites through the city. Look into those, the cost less and run shorter so you can try different things. 


ans11950
by Bronze Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:55 AM
Kids can socialize in my ways other than daycare. Look at a local YMCA or something like that and see if they have play groups, see if your library has story time. Go to a park and see if you can meet other parents had have play dates.
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happy41ce
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:55 AM
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They talk to anyone and everyone. My kids are people person(s). If that makes sense. LOL


Quoting Anonymous:

How did they all turn out social wise ?


Quoting happy41ce:

never EVER.

I will not send baby #5 either..




young_lv_mom
by Silver Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:55 AM
We have all be their, just try to remember that the parents really do know best and the rest is helpful suggestions (even if the are pushy) and you will be just fine. :)

Quoting Anonymous:

He is social when someone approaches him first. He literally has no cousins his age and SO and I are waiting on number two until we feel comfortable with it. First time mom learning I guess.




Quoting young_lv_mom:

My oldest went, but my youngest has not, and they both are great around kids (youngest is not great around adults he does not know and he is 4, but I am sure he will be fine). If you think he is good trust your self, after all you are with him all the time and the pedi is with him for check ups.

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deepthinker
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:55 AM
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Maybe the doctor sees a lack in your child hitting his milestones properly in the social arena.  You stated that you were waiting on other family to have children to bring others into the family and your child is an only child.  Is your child being social with any children in his age group?

I don't think you have to send your child to daycare to socialize them, even though I think it is a good way to do so, but what bothers me is it sounds like your child is not exposed to other children at all.  I think children need some time to spend with other children.  I don't think SAHM should send their kids to daycare all day though, but I do think they need to spend time with other children their age.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:55 AM
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I worked in daycare and that has been my biggest reason for not putting him in it. I've seen the truth behind the curtains.


Quoting luckystars2012:

I have almost always worked so my DD has been in daycare.  What I can tell you is that I spend a lot of time volunteering at my DDs kindergarten class, and in general the kids with the most social issues are the kids who have not been in a social setting with other kids. 

Playdates simply arent enough.  you dont have to put yoru kid in daycare full time, but a half day a couple of times a week makes a big difference.


Byrd15
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:57 AM
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Oh come on there has to be a few people in town with kids. It doesn't have to be all kids who are 13 months, they can be younger or older too. :)

Quoting Anonymous:

There are no kids his age I can arrange for them with. He sees them at the park or at the store, etc.




Quoting Byrd15:

My 2 siblings and I never did, and my children won't. It's a personal choice.


Why not have play dates? In your own home for a few hours a week, those are always fun! <3

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