HELP! Boyfriend Crap!!

[Anonymous]

So I've been seeing this guy for about 3 yrs. Its not serious. I'd like it to be. I care about him a lot!!! He, on the other hand, never shares his feelings. Neither have I!!! He has no idea, I LOVE HIM! We have had sex once. I've given him countless bjs!!! I recently moved 30 miles away. I thought it would end the "relationship". It didn't!!!! He comes to see me about 3 times a month. No sex happened. But we just meet somewhere. I enjoy my time with him. Wtf am I supposed to think!?? Is he into me or not??? HELP!!!!!!! What am I supposed to feel????

[DonnaPinitonya]

Quoting Anonymous:

If he only had sex with you once then hes having sex with someone else.

Or he's gay and your his bff.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I can't!!!! Not comfortable doing that. I think I wanna hear how he feels first, before I put myself out there. This just sucks! Thank you, Sassy!!! You're so awesome. You're always so nice.

Quoting Sassy762:

I have no clue,lol IF you can't verbally tell him, then send  him a text or email....can you do that?

Quoting Anonymous:

Why do I not feel comfortable to tell him that???

Quoting Sassy762:

Tell him how you really feel..................

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Goodness momma!!!! It sucks!!!!! I'd love to ask my "friend" what he feels!!! I'm scared! Although I know he can't answer "sex is good" cause we don't have sex!!!! I hate this! I feel so stupid!!!

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm in the same boat in a sense.

I've known him maybe 4 months and we've recently started having sex. But seeing as how we see eachother, on average, weekly, it's not all of the time. But he's great with my kid (yes he's met my kid, we began as friends, and he's actually friends with my best friend). We have tons in common. He's not said anything, my best friend hasn't said anything which means, most likely, he hasn't told her anything. I'm too scared to ruin a friendship or two if what I'm saying turns out to work against me.

I wish you all the luck OP. I really, sincerely do.

[Anonymous]

Omg how did you know?!

Quoting DonnaPinitonya:

Quoting Anonymous:

If he only had sex with you once then hes having sex with someone else.

Or he's gay and your his bff.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I'm gonna sound like an ass, but I doubt it.

Quoting Anonymous:

If he only had sex with you once then hes having sex with someone else.

[Kes1s]

Clasic example of "he just doesn't like you in that way"

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

POSITIVE!!!!

Quoting Anonymous:

Are you sure he isn't married?

[DonnaPinitonya]

I know a gentleman that came out as gay after he made out hard core with his girl bff at a concert. She was so confused and then they talked and suprise! He was trying to stay in the closet in front of his guy friends who all had dates that night.

Quoting Anonymous:

Omg how did you know?!

Quoting DonnaPinitonya:

Quoting Anonymous:

If he only had sex with you once then hes having sex with someone else.

Or he's gay and your his bff.

[TTC2Long]

I'm REALLY not asking this to be snarky - I'm genuinely curious. :) How old are you guys?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Because its gone on so long, this thought has crossed my mind. He's 35! Not married! No kids! Lives w/ his grandparents. He has a good paying job for him to own his own him by now. He's been working for this company for 19 yrs!

Quoting DonnaPinitonya:

Quoting Anonymous:

If he only had sex with you once then hes having sex with someone else.

Or he's gay and your his bff.