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I'm in the adult industry - would you want me around your husband?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I'm a web cam model and I'm just curious about something.

granted, I know that to many women, we women in the adult industry are the most despised women alive.

which is a big reason why so many women in the industry don't reveal what their job is. because so many are under cover, many people may already be associating with a web cam model, porn actress, stripper, escort, and not have any idea.

my question is this, if you found out that someone in your life was in the adult industry, would that change how you felt about them being around your husband?

as for your kids, that's a question for another time. I'm just asking about the husband here.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:13 AM
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AnastasiaKorsh
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:29 PM

No, I'd have no problem with them being around my husband, however both of our views about said person would change.

mommabear8281
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:30 PM
No I would not want you around my hubby. I know that he would not cheat on me with you but the flurting and staring would bother me. The reason being is that I miss him flurting and staring at me like that... not to mention I am insecure about how I look... he tells me all the time that I am beautiful or georgous, I just don't feel it any more... before I had kids I was a model but gave it up to become a mother.....
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:31 PM


that's just it, I don't really understand why they would be either. But I see and hear many statements supporting the idea that many women wouldn't want their husbands around anyone in the adult industry. that's why I asked the question. for those that wouldn't want their guys around women like me, I wondered why that was.

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm confused. Are people supposed to feel threatened or intimidated by you being around their husband? Why would we be? I guess I don't understand the question.



Wonderlust
by Silver Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:32 PM

I agree. There is a job for everyone. From fetish to sick. Someone will pay to see it.

Quoting Anonymous:

Anyone with a vagina or a dick for that matter could be in the sex industry (web cam model *wink). 

you have a point on this, I've said it many times. just about anyone could do what many of us do, they just choose not to.

world is changing. many in the industry feel that in the future there may not even be a adult industry because more and more it's viewed as 'no big deal'

future will tell I guess!

Quoting Wonderlust:

Um. Not in the slightest. How does me questioning her thinking make me insecure? I could be sarcastic right now...but I'll refrain.

Quoting Miss.MaryJane:

I don't recall her saying that. Insecure much?


Quoting Wonderlust:

So let me get this straight..because you're a "web cam model" you think you can hook any man? Anyone with a vagina or a dick for that matter could be in the sex industry (web cam model *wink). Honestly my husband wouldn't want to be around you if that were the case. What I wanted would have little bearing on his opinion of you.





Bertha21
by Platinum Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:33 PM
If you made it apparent of what you did for a living, then yes I would care. If you never talked about it, or mentioned anything about your job I wouldn't have a problem.
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Miss.MaryJane
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:35 PM
Meh. It doesn't matter what you say to me really. But she never even implied she could have any man she wanted.


Quoting Wonderlust:

Um. Not in the slightest. How does me questioning her thinking make me insecure? I could be sarcastic right now...but I'll refrain.

Quoting Miss.MaryJane:

I don't recall her saying that. Insecure much?





Quoting Wonderlust:

So let me get this straight..because you're a "web cam model" you think you can hook any man? Anyone with a vagina or a dick for that matter could be in the sex industry (web cam model *wink). Honestly my husband wouldn't want to be around you if that were the case. What I wanted would have little bearing on his opinion of you.


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Wonderlust
by Silver Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:36 PM
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Yes quoting myself...let me clarify...If she has just asked in a general way...would you/your family hang around her, that is one thing. But the whole husband deal makes it sound as if you'd have to worry about your husband because of what she does. I mean...what part of what she does would make her more attractive if she didn't think that way? Because like I said in another answer there are other factors...not just a job in the sex industry.

Quoting Wonderlust:

So let me get this straight..because you're a "web cam model" you think you can hook any man? Anyone with a vagina or a dick for that matter could be in the sex industry (web cam model *wink). Honestly my husband wouldn't want to be around you if that were the case. What I wanted would have little bearing on his opinion of you.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:40 PM


you feel that he would be the one flirting and staring?

that would bother me too if my guy did that when I didn't feel sexy. I do totally understand. normally things like that don't bother me much, but a few years back I had gained a lot of weight due to a thyroid problem. I didn't feel sexy at all.

that's one of the reasons I started this job believe it or not!

I had gained the weight, and felt like I looked terrible. though the hubby didn't think so. we went to a restaurant where the servers wear push up bras and skirts and though I normally wouldn't have cared less, I had to excuse myself because I started to cry!

a woman on here who was a web cam model told me I should give it a try when I was so intrigued with her job. I thought she was crazy!

I set up in my kitchen and gave it a try, mostly just to get her off my back and prove to her she was nuts.

It all went fine, I made a bunch of money while really enjoying myself. the guys were so nice to me, telling me to not be nervous. I felt so much better about myself after just a few days of camming!

mostly because I was so proud of myself for being able to finally get dressed up, make myself feel pretty and do something so brave!

you dont' have to be a web cam girl to feel more confident, but I would suggest telling yourself many times a day that you are the hottest thing on the block! that's what I did, and hubby says that I act totally different once I started that mantra.

I think that you will learn to believe yourself, and others will see the confidence too. confidence is the most sexy thing in the world!


Quoting mommabear8281:

No I would not want you around my hubby. I know that he would not cheat on me with you but the flurting and staring would bother me. The reason being is that I miss him flurting and staring at me like that... not to mention I am insecure about how I look... he tells me all the time that I am beautiful or georgous, I just don't feel it any more... before I had kids I was a model but gave it up to become a mother.....



Wonderlust
by Silver Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 3:42 PM
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Then why ask about the husband specifically,and not you as a person or your family. Why would the husband alone be the issue? Catch my meaning? What does her being in the sex industry have to do with someone else's husband UNLESS there was a question of her intentions. Or either she thinks that she is that great and her job makes her better at something.

Quoting Miss.MaryJane:

Meh. It doesn't matter what you say to me really. But she never even implied she could have any man she wanted.


Quoting Wonderlust:

Um. Not in the slightest. How does me questioning her thinking make me insecure? I could be sarcastic right now...but I'll refrain.

Quoting Miss.MaryJane:

I don't recall her saying that. Insecure much?





Quoting Wonderlust:

So let me get this straight..because you're a "web cam model" you think you can hook any man? Anyone with a vagina or a dick for that matter could be in the sex industry (web cam model *wink). Honestly my husband wouldn't want to be around you if that were the case. What I wanted would have little bearing on his opinion of you.



AngeLnChainZ
by Silver Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 4:04 PM

If you aren't trying to fuck him.. Why should I care about what you do in your own time?

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