Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Mom Confessions Mom Confessions

I'm a WAHM not a SAHM!!

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
There's a difference. I refuse to fall under the stereotype SAHM. I'm not lazy as I do more than a SAHM!!

I'm not against a SAHM. I just believe in making my fair share.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 9:47 PM
Replies (81-90):
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:53 PM
5 moms liked this
I have worked. Staying home with three young kids is mentally exhausting. Working was MUCH easier. I got a break from my kids. I came home to a CLEAN house and made ONE meal a day. Then it was bed-time. You working moms need to quit your damn whining. Sucks that your husband can't support his family but quit bitching.
zoo003
by Gold Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:53 PM
8 moms liked this
You do realize that even though your second paragraph stated that you don't have anything against sahm's, your first paragraph basically slammed them? I have never understood the whole sahm, wahm, working mom debate. It isn't a competition. Just do what works for your family and you and let others do what works for their family and them. No reason to say one is better than the other.
Posted on the NEW CafeMom Mobile
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:55 PM
That is because you are teaching your children by your own actions that they should strive to attain the position of dishwasher and laundress. My children need maids, so thank you.


Quoting StoneColdKiller:

 fun for you, boring to me.


Quoting Anonymous:

Actually exciting. I tested my work in sweden and got to brng my children. They talk about it now as adults. They hope they can do the same interesting activities with their children.



Quoting StoneColdKiller:


 that sounds very boring.



Quoting Anonymous:

I'm only saying a truly productive member of society can do both. By the time my children were teenagers I had taken them with me to haiti to help a small village build a well for fresh water, and I had architected the NBC recon vehicles for NATO.

I think you should expect more of yourself.




Quoting AMCMSM:



No, I work, volunteer, and have a happy child. I just think that raising a happy successful child contributes far more to society than any job I could work.



saying that you contribute nothing to society by being a SAHM is just as silly as saying you can not be good mother if you work.



Quoting Anonymous:

Are you incapable of having happy, well-adjusted children AND contribute to the betterment of society?







Quoting AMCMSM:



Happy well adjusted children does contribute to society. Do you believe that working outside the home is the only way to add anything to society? 



Quoting Anonymous:

Ok martha stewart...your contribution is awesome by doing dishes and laundry.. keep thinking you are adding anything to society.










Quoting Anonymous:



 



That still doesn't make me lazy.  Just because you work and I don't doesn't mean I am lazy.  Thats not how that works.  It just means that my DH makes enough money that I can concentrate all my efforts on making his life, our kids' lives, and our home as comfortable as possible.






Quoting Anonymous:

And some of us work 10 hour days and do all the housework at home and take care of our children. No kudos for you.













Quoting Anonymous:



I am a sahm and I am not lazy.  I do my share.  I cook, clean, teach our children, all while DH is at work.  I work 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.  He works 10 hour days 4 days a week.  I don't ask him to do much when he is home.  I don't think Sahms are lazy at all.







 






 















 



 


momo3fgr8tteens
by Ruby Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:57 PM
1 mom liked this

I will never understand this argument of which alphabet combination is superior. I have been a sahm, a wahm, a wohm and a lady of leisure. Who cares, really?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:57 PM
1 mom liked this
Oh so sorry...typing on my phone while reading your ideas to my adult children. They are getting quite a laugh.


Quoting Anonymous:

What you're saying is as ridiculous as when people say that working mothers are too selfish to settle for being just "mom"... that they put themselves before their kids.

Oh, and the word is spelled "minuscule", not "miniscule". How's that "advanced education" workin' out for ya?


Quoting Anonymous:

Do you teach your children only about your miniscule microcosm too?



I assume all women are capable of having an advanced education and contributing more than McDonalds....some don't try though. They settle for being June Cleaver. How endearing.





Quoting Anonymous:


So basically you think that a mom having any job at all is better than what I do?  That some mom that works at Mcdonalds is contributing more to society than I am just because she has a job and I don't? And no I am not saying that is what I am qualified to do so don't go jumping to any conclusions.  I don't have to fill my life full of a bunch of extra curricular activities so that I feel like I am making a difference in the world.  I make a difference every day to the only world that matters to me: My Family.  They are my world and I contribute to their betterment every single day.  If you want to work or need to work, or whatever your personal situation is thats fine with me.  I don't think I am better than you are.  I don't see why you have to feel like you are better than anyone else.  I know that at the end of each day my family and I are happy and that's what counts in my book. As long as you can say the same(however you achieve that happiness) then you are obviously doing something right.  I see no reason to be so condescending about it.



Quoting Anonymous:

Ok martha stewart...your contribution is awesome by doing dishes and laundry.. keep thinking you are adding anything to society.








Quoting Anonymous:


That still doesn't make me lazy.  Just because you work and I don't doesn't mean I am lazy.  Thats not how that works.  It just means that my DH makes enough money that I can concentrate all my efforts on making his life, our kids' lives, and our home as comfortable as possible.




Quoting Anonymous:

And some of us work 10 hour days and do all the housework at home and take care of our children. No kudos for you.











Quoting Anonymous:

I am a sahm and I am not lazy.  I do my share.  I cook, clean, teach our children, all while DH is at work.  I work 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.  He works 10 hour days 4 days a week.  I don't ask him to do much when he is home.  I don't think Sahms are lazy at all.























opal10161973
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:58 PM
1 mom liked this

I go to college FT and SAH and DF thinks I don't do that much!  Really?  It seems like I barely have enough time to do the reading, homework, writing papers, and then almost all of the house cleaning on top of it.  I told him tonight that he needs to help out more.  This is getting ridiculous. 

FYI  It wouldn't bother me so much, but the cold weather is making my FMS and RA flare up and I am having a hard time getting everything done. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:58 PM
1 mom liked this

Awesome rebuttal, I bet you were debate champ in high school.


Quoting Anonymous:

Oh so sorry...typing on my phone while reading your ideas to my adult children. They are getting quite a laugh.


Quoting Anonymous:

What you're saying is as ridiculous as when people say that working mothers are too selfish to settle for being just "mom"... that they put themselves before their kids.

Oh, and the word is spelled "minuscule", not "miniscule". How's that "advanced education" workin' out for ya?


Quoting Anonymous:

Do you teach your children only about your miniscule microcosm too?



I assume all women are capable of having an advanced education and contributing more than McDonalds....some don't try though. They settle for being June Cleaver. How endearing.





Quoting Anonymous:


So basically you think that a mom having any job at all is better than what I do?  That some mom that works at Mcdonalds is contributing more to society than I am just because she has a job and I don't? And no I am not saying that is what I am qualified to do so don't go jumping to any conclusions.  I don't have to fill my life full of a bunch of extra curricular activities so that I feel like I am making a difference in the world.  I make a difference every day to the only world that matters to me: My Family.  They are my world and I contribute to their betterment every single day.  If you want to work or need to work, or whatever your personal situation is thats fine with me.  I don't think I am better than you are.  I don't see why you have to feel like you are better than anyone else.  I know that at the end of each day my family and I are happy and that's what counts in my book. As long as you can say the same(however you achieve that happiness) then you are obviously doing something right.  I see no reason to be so condescending about it.



Quoting Anonymous:

Ok martha stewart...your contribution is awesome by doing dishes and laundry.. keep thinking you are adding anything to society.








Quoting Anonymous:


That still doesn't make me lazy.  Just because you work and I don't doesn't mean I am lazy.  Thats not how that works.  It just means that my DH makes enough money that I can concentrate all my efforts on making his life, our kids' lives, and our home as comfortable as possible.




Quoting Anonymous:

And some of us work 10 hour days and do all the housework at home and take care of our children. No kudos for you.











Quoting Anonymous:

I am a sahm and I am not lazy.  I do my share.  I cook, clean, teach our children, all while DH is at work.  I work 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.  He works 10 hour days 4 days a week.  I don't ask him to do much when he is home.  I don't think Sahms are lazy at all.

























Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:59 PM
2 moms liked this

Do you earn an income? How much is your hourly/salary wage? Do you earn a paycheck, with your name on it?

No? You're a SAHM, and that's it. Get over yourself.

StoneColdKiller
by Gold Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:00 AM

 really, so you know what goes on in my home?

You know that Im raising a 6 year old with classic autism and adhd, do you even know how much work that is? How much work I have done in the last 6 years for this kid. You have no idea what I do day in and day out.

Quoting Anonymous:

That is because you are teaching your children by your own actions that they should strive to attain the position of dishwasher and laundress. My children need maids, so thank you.


Quoting StoneColdKiller:

 fun for you, boring to me.


Quoting Anonymous:

Actually exciting. I tested my work in sweden and got to brng my children. They talk about it now as adults. They hope they can do the same interesting activities with their children.



Quoting StoneColdKiller:


 that sounds very boring.



Quoting Anonymous:

I'm only saying a truly productive member of society can do both. By the time my children were teenagers I had taken them with me to haiti to help a small village build a well for fresh water, and I had architected the NBC recon vehicles for NATO.

I think you should expect more of yourself.




Quoting AMCMSM:



No, I work, volunteer, and have a happy child. I just think that raising a happy successful child contributes far more to society than any job I could work.



saying that you contribute nothing to society by being a SAHM is just as silly as saying you can not be good mother if you work.



Quoting Anonymous:

Are you incapable of having happy, well-adjusted children AND contribute to the betterment of society?







Quoting AMCMSM:



Happy well adjusted children does contribute to society. Do you believe that working outside the home is the only way to add anything to society? 



Quoting Anonymous:

Ok martha stewart...your contribution is awesome by doing dishes and laundry.. keep thinking you are adding anything to society.










Quoting Anonymous:



 



That still doesn't make me lazy.  Just because you work and I don't doesn't mean I am lazy.  Thats not how that works.  It just means that my DH makes enough money that I can concentrate all my efforts on making his life, our kids' lives, and our home as comfortable as possible.






Quoting Anonymous:

And some of us work 10 hour days and do all the housework at home and take care of our children. No kudos for you.













Quoting Anonymous:



I am a sahm and I am not lazy.  I do my share.  I cook, clean, teach our children, all while DH is at work.  I work 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.  He works 10 hour days 4 days a week.  I don't ask him to do much when he is home.  I don't think Sahms are lazy at all.







 






 















 



 


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:00 AM
4 moms liked this

I really don't care what you think honestly.  I don't care if you think I'm a lazy SAHM because I know I am not.  I homeschool my special needs son and my daughter and they are doing amazing.  Plus I grow a garden and preserve the produce to last the rest of the year.  My 5 year old knows how to can food, prepare vegetables for the freezer, and care for farm animals.  We hope to get a dairy cow next.  I make most of our food completely from scratch. 

So call me what you may.  I contribute to my family as well and yes, to society.  How?  Well volunteering, planting extra to donate to food banks, and raising my children to be responsible members of society.

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)