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I'm a WAHM not a SAHM!!

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There's a difference. I refuse to fall under the stereotype SAHM. I'm not lazy as I do more than a SAHM!!

I'm not against a SAHM. I just believe in making my fair share.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 9:47 PM
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Susan0805
by Platinum Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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Sahm have it rough, i certainly dont think they are lazy!
I was a sahm, now i work (parttime, and go to school); sah was certainly harder in my opinion.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:01 AM
I love when women try to justify being lazy. I find it humorous. Keep going so I can read more to my children.


Quoting Anonymous:

Awesome rebuttal, I bet you were debate champ in high school.



Quoting Anonymous:

Oh so sorry...typing on my phone while reading your ideas to my adult children. They are getting quite a laugh.





Quoting Anonymous:

What you're saying is as ridiculous as when people say that working mothers are too selfish to settle for being just "mom"... that they put themselves before their kids.

Oh, and the word is spelled "minuscule", not "miniscule". How's that "advanced education" workin' out for ya?



Quoting Anonymous:

Do you teach your children only about your miniscule microcosm too?





I assume all women are capable of having an advanced education and contributing more than McDonalds....some don't try though. They settle for being June Cleaver. How endearing.








Quoting Anonymous:


So basically you think that a mom having any job at all is better than what I do?  That some mom that works at Mcdonalds is contributing more to society than I am just because she has a job and I don't? And no I am not saying that is what I am qualified to do so don't go jumping to any conclusions.  I don't have to fill my life full of a bunch of extra curricular activities so that I feel like I am making a difference in the world.  I make a difference every day to the only world that matters to me: My Family.  They are my world and I contribute to their betterment every single day.  If you want to work or need to work, or whatever your personal situation is thats fine with me.  I don't think I am better than you are.  I don't see why you have to feel like you are better than anyone else.  I know that at the end of each day my family and I are happy and that's what counts in my book. As long as you can say the same(however you achieve that happiness) then you are obviously doing something right.  I see no reason to be so condescending about it.




Quoting Anonymous:

Ok martha stewart...your contribution is awesome by doing dishes and laundry.. keep thinking you are adding anything to society.











Quoting Anonymous:


That still doesn't make me lazy.  Just because you work and I don't doesn't mean I am lazy.  Thats not how that works.  It just means that my DH makes enough money that I can concentrate all my efforts on making his life, our kids' lives, and our home as comfortable as possible.





Quoting Anonymous:

And some of us work 10 hour days and do all the housework at home and take care of our children. No kudos for you.














Quoting Anonymous:

I am a sahm and I am not lazy.  I do my share.  I cook, clean, teach our children, all while DH is at work.  I work 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.  He works 10 hour days 4 days a week.  I don't ask him to do much when he is home.  I don't think Sahms are lazy at all.


































Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:01 AM
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Your children need maids? You are unable to clean up after your own children? Or are they grown? If they are grown and need maids you apparently needed to teach them basic activities. Going to Sweden doesn't mean squat if you're incapable of what a four year old should be doing.

Quoting Anonymous:

That is because you are teaching your children by your own actions that they should strive to attain the position of dishwasher and laundress. My children need maids, so thank you.




Quoting StoneColdKiller:

 fun for you, boring to me.



Quoting Anonymous:

Actually exciting. I tested my work in sweden and got to brng my children. They talk about it now as adults. They hope they can do the same interesting activities with their children.




Quoting StoneColdKiller:



 that sounds very boring.




Quoting Anonymous:

I'm only saying a truly productive member of society can do both. By the time my children were teenagers I had taken them with me to haiti to help a small village build a well for fresh water, and I had architected the NBC recon vehicles for NATO.

I think you should expect more of yourself.





Quoting AMCMSM:




No, I work, volunteer, and have a happy child. I just think that raising a happy successful child contributes far more to society than any job I could work.




saying that you contribute nothing to society by being a SAHM is just as silly as saying you can not be good mother if you work.




Quoting Anonymous:

Are you incapable of having happy, well-adjusted children AND contribute to the betterment of society?








Quoting AMCMSM:




Happy well adjusted children does contribute to society. Do you believe that working outside the home is the only way to add anything to society? 




Quoting Anonymous:

Ok martha stewart...your contribution is awesome by doing dishes and laundry.. keep thinking you are adding anything to society.











Quoting Anonymous:




 




That still doesn't make me lazy.  Just because you work and I don't doesn't mean I am lazy.  Thats not how that works.  It just means that my DH makes enough money that I can concentrate all my efforts on making his life, our kids' lives, and our home as comfortable as possible.







Quoting Anonymous:

And some of us work 10 hour days and do all the housework at home and take care of our children. No kudos for you.














Quoting Anonymous:




I am a sahm and I am not lazy.  I do my share.  I cook, clean, teach our children, all while DH is at work.  I work 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.  He works 10 hour days 4 days a week.  I don't ask him to do much when he is home.  I don't think Sahms are lazy at all.








 







 


















 




 


tlcory
by Platinum Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:01 AM
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I think SAHM's are very strong women! That is one of the most mentally challenging jobs there is, there is no one to tell them Good Morning (once DH goes to work), no great job on that_______ you worked on, no you look nice today, I like that ______where did you get it? No What should we have for lunch today, no eating lunch in peace,  no do you need help with that? No peeing in peace, no serious discussion on where we want this project to go, no the phone is for you do you want me to take a message?.........I think you get my point, KUDOS to all stay at home Moms, it is a hard job!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:01 AM
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I guess some people were just never taught that its ok to agree to disagree and leave it at that. 

MicheleJM
by Ruby Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:02 AM

Some of us don't have husbands so we are not only working but doing repairs and other things that a man would do.  I agree though I found staying home mentally exhausting. Therefore I went back to work and no my husband then couldn't support us by himself. I assume not all mothers feel the same way though and again who cares?  It's CM...here for the sole purpose so that we can come and whine.


Quoting Anonymous:

I have worked. Staying home with three young kids is mentally exhausting. Working was MUCH easier. I got a break from my kids. I came home to a CLEAN house and made ONE meal a day. Then it was bed-time. You working moms need to quit your damn whining. Sucks that your husband can't support his family but quit bitching.



KimberlyDavis7
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:02 AM
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 Amen, I was going to say the same thing.  I am a SAHM and I bust my ass all day and all night.  Its never ending.  And hunny I am raising 7 kids so my days never end.  I am not lazy at all.  I actually think its pretty rude you are assuming we are lazy.  Just sayin.


Quoting Anonymous:

I am a sahm and I am not lazy.  I do my share.  I cook, clean, teach our children, all while DH is at work.  I work 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.  He works 10 hour days 4 days a week.  I don't ask him to do much when he is home.  I don't think Sahms are lazy at all.


 

TiffanyRose06
by Queso<3 on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:03 AM
I eat a lot of queso, its my thing. I just wish it wasn't so fattening lol

Quoting momo3fgr8tteens:


Ooooh we had queso tonight when we went out for dinner. It was yummy, a bit spicy but yummy!


Quoting TiffanyRose06:

Mmm finally get my queso




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sorcha1945
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:05 AM
I am a WAHM and while I would not change it, it is damn hard taking care of the kids, taking care of the house, and working 40-60 hours all at the same time. Never fails you in the middle of some huge time crunch issue with work and the baby decides its screamfest time, and the older one wants to ask a million questions they already know the answer to.
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tlcory
by Platinum Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:06 AM
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Thank you!

Quoting Kaitlin123:

Working at home mom



Quoting tlcory:

What is a WAHM? 



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