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My daughters father is in jail up to 20 yeArs

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He was my first love i met him when i was 13 since then he was always in problems with the law most of our realatinship he was in and out of juvy. Now he is in jAil he has court tomorow and might give him up to 20 years. Me and him had a huge fight before he got cought (he was on the run like for a year) so since his been in jail i havent talked to him or anything i knw he got another girl pregnant before he got cought and shes been paying for lawyers and they are going to het married hes brother told me he asked for my adress but i dnt knw if to keep contact with him or not i kinda feel bad for him he is barely 22
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:47 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:57 PM

Damn..I would not have anything to do with him and would not give his brother your address.

Quoting Anonymous:

Am glad hes not goint to bother me or my daughter anymore but i cant help but feel kinda bad. He robbed a place and shot a person


Quoting angie729:

Sounds like one I would be glad to get rid of. What did he do that he is facing 20 years?



mshill12
by Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:58 PM

I'm sorry :( My 2 older boys dad is in prison right now.  Its hard on them.  Thank God it is not going to be 20 years but he was facing 25.  He pled out to 1 and 1/3 to 3 years because lawyers said he would prob lose in court.  I believe he gets out in July but my kids are hurt.  I am afraid that they even when he gets out wont have much of a relationship with him.   They are 6 and 8.  Daddy I believe has been away not for close to 4 years.  Two different sentences.  I am so sorry... If your daughter has a relationship with her father than I think maybe you may want to keep in contact for her sake and let her decide later but if not just let it go.  Really it is to much for kids to handle.  I feel so bad for mine and hate my ex husband so much sometimes for leaving them.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:59 PM
Why would you keep in touch with somebody like that? Do you realize that you can be charge if you know something he did or were he was and dont tell the police? Soround yourself with good people.
lucsch
by Platinum Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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He sounds like a real loser....run, run, as fast as you can away from him. This is your chance to find a GOOD guy. You deserve someone who is honest and a hard worker, someone who will love you. It sounds like he has moved on anyway. Don't feel sorry for him. He did all this bad stuff to get himself in prison.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:05 AM
Thank you and good thing she didnt i left him when i found out i was pregnant and then he went to jail for another thing i dnt realy knw why shes seen him like 5 times and she does not remeber so am just not going to let him have contact with him until shes old enogh to decide her self but it does feel bad to think about the kids in this situation i knw it was my choice but i was way to young and in love but i got my head together and left him


Quoting mshill12:

I'm sorry :( My 2 older boys dad is in prison right now.  Its hard on them.  Thank God it is not going to be 20 years but he was facing 25.  He pled out to 1 and 1/3 to 3 years because lawyers said he would prob lose in court.  I believe he gets out in July but my kids are hurt.  I am afraid that they even when he gets out wont have much of a relationship with him.   They are 6 and 8.  Daddy I believe has been away not for close to 4 years.  Two different sentences.  I am so sorry... If your daughter has a relationship with her father than I think maybe you may want to keep in contact for her sake and let her decide later but if not just let it go.  Really it is to much for kids to handle.  I feel so bad for mine and hate my ex husband so much sometimes for leaving them.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:07 AM
Thank you


Quoting lucsch:

He sounds like a real loser....run, run, as fast as you can away from him. This is your chance to find a GOOD guy. You deserve someone who is honest and a hard worker, someone who will love you. It sounds like he has moved on anyway. Don't feel sorry for him. He did all this bad stuff to get himself in prison.


mshill12
by Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:11 AM

Thats good.  My ex was getting in trouble alot the whole time we were together.  Which was like close to 10 years (thats including the time we weren't married).  I didn't really smarten up when I should have he was abusive.  In trouble with the law for domestic violence and stuff he did while drinking.  These 2 serious charges we were separated and when he got out on bail he wasn't the same father.  He hasn't seen them much while in prison.  My kids miss him terribly.  Also so you know he was never and has never been abusive to the kids.  Thats not him... he just has issues with women apparently.  Either was my kids miss him and its hard on them and they want their daddy.  And somedays I just wanna go visit him and smack the shit outta him for leaving these little boys.  Though I am glad they have my husband (their step father) in their life being the daddy figure while their father is away but it is very hard.


Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you and good thing she didnt i left him when i found out i was pregnant and then he went to jail for another thing i dnt realy knw why shes seen him like 5 times and she does not remeber so am just not going to let him have contact with him until shes old enogh to decide her self but it does feel bad to think about the kids in this situation i knw it was my choice but i was way to young and in love but i got my head together and left him


Quoting mshill12:

I'm sorry :( My 2 older boys dad is in prison right now.  Its hard on them.  Thank God it is not going to be 20 years but he was facing 25.  He pled out to 1 and 1/3 to 3 years because lawyers said he would prob lose in court.  I believe he gets out in July but my kids are hurt.  I am afraid that they even when he gets out wont have much of a relationship with him.   They are 6 and 8.  Daddy I believe has been away not for close to 4 years.  Two different sentences.  I am so sorry... If your daughter has a relationship with her father than I think maybe you may want to keep in contact for her sake and let her decide later but if not just let it go.  Really it is to much for kids to handle.  I feel so bad for mine and hate my ex husband so much sometimes for leaving them.




Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:18 AM
:( i am sorry to hear that. Have they ever visited him in prisson? If so what was their reaction. My ex he was always good to me and the times he saw my daighter he was a whole different person tje way he would talke to her and treat her it wasemt the bad guy that everyone else knew... But atleast they have a father figure and a good one so does my daughter to her my father is her only father figure


Quoting mshill12:

Thats good.  My ex was getting in trouble alot the whole time we were together.  Which was like close to 10 years (thats including the time we weren't married).  I didn't really smarten up when I should have he was abusive.  In trouble with the law for domestic violence and stuff he did while drinking.  These 2 serious charges we were separated and when he got out on bail he wasn't the same father.  He hasn't seen them much while in prison.  My kids miss him terribly.  Also so you know he was never and has never been abusive to the kids.  Thats not him... he just has issues with women apparently.  Either was my kids miss him and its hard on them and they want their daddy.  And somedays I just wanna go visit him and smack the shit outta him for leaving these little boys.  Though I am glad they have my husband (their step father) in their life being the daddy figure while their father is away but it is very hard.



Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you and good thing she didnt i left him when i found out i was pregnant and then he went to jail for another thing i dnt realy knw why shes seen him like 5 times and she does not remeber so am just not going to let him have contact with him until shes old enogh to decide her self but it does feel bad to think about the kids in this situation i knw it was my choice but i was way to young and in love but i got my head together and left him





Quoting mshill12:

I'm sorry :( My 2 older boys dad is in prison right now.  Its hard on them.  Thank God it is not going to be 20 years but he was facing 25.  He pled out to 1 and 1/3 to 3 years because lawyers said he would prob lose in court.  I believe he gets out in July but my kids are hurt.  I am afraid that they even when he gets out wont have much of a relationship with him.   They are 6 and 8.  Daddy I believe has been away not for close to 4 years.  Two different sentences.  I am so sorry... If your daughter has a relationship with her father than I think maybe you may want to keep in contact for her sake and let her decide later but if not just let it go.  Really it is to much for kids to handle.  I feel so bad for mine and hate my ex husband so much sometimes for leaving them.







Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:27 AM
U should feel bad for the person that got shot by him!
mshill12
by Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:28 AM


My ex's mother takes them to see him and they do fine.  I'm glad he is a great daddy but sometimes I wish he was a better person.  I don't mind that we didn't work out.  I'm fine with it.  Believe it or not we get along great usually being that we are not together.  He has changed ALOT but in someways he is just not him.  On bail all he did was drink... was careless and driving drunk.  He hardly ever had the kids.  Told me he didn't feel like he could be a daddy.  I worry how he is gonna me when he gets out. and worry that he may put himself back there.  He doesn't have a good relationship with his father never has and I don't want that for my boys but I fear it may happen :(  Its just really hard on them that there daddy aint around.  I cry for them somedays because I just don't know what to do for them on the days they really miss daddy.  The love when they get to see him don't understand why daddy can't do anything other than sit ther.  They don't really understand why daddy is gone just that he did something bad.  They talk to him on the phone on the weekends when they are visiting their grandmother.

Quoting Anonymous:

:( i am sorry to hear that. Have they ever visited him in prisson? If so what was their reaction. My ex he was always good to me and the times he saw my daighter he was a whole different person tje way he would talke to her and treat her it wasemt the bad guy that everyone else knew... But atleast they have a father figure and a good one so does my daughter to her my father is her only father figure


Quoting mshill12:

Thats good.  My ex was getting in trouble alot the whole time we were together.  Which was like close to 10 years (thats including the time we weren't married).  I didn't really smarten up when I should have he was abusive.  In trouble with the law for domestic violence and stuff he did while drinking.  These 2 serious charges we were separated and when he got out on bail he wasn't the same father.  He hasn't seen them much while in prison.  My kids miss him terribly.  Also so you know he was never and has never been abusive to the kids.  Thats not him... he just has issues with women apparently.  Either was my kids miss him and its hard on them and they want their daddy.  And somedays I just wanna go visit him and smack the shit outta him for leaving these little boys.  Though I am glad they have my husband (their step father) in their life being the daddy figure while their father is away but it is very hard.



Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you and good thing she didnt i left him when i found out i was pregnant and then he went to jail for another thing i dnt realy knw why shes seen him like 5 times and she does not remeber so am just not going to let him have contact with him until shes old enogh to decide her self but it does feel bad to think about the kids in this situation i knw it was my choice but i was way to young and in love but i got my head together and left him





Quoting mshill12:

I'm sorry :( My 2 older boys dad is in prison right now.  Its hard on them.  Thank God it is not going to be 20 years but he was facing 25.  He pled out to 1 and 1/3 to 3 years because lawyers said he would prob lose in court.  I believe he gets out in July but my kids are hurt.  I am afraid that they even when he gets out wont have much of a relationship with him.   They are 6 and 8.  Daddy I believe has been away not for close to 4 years.  Two different sentences.  I am so sorry... If your daughter has a relationship with her father than I think maybe you may want to keep in contact for her sake and let her decide later but if not just let it go.  Really it is to much for kids to handle.  I feel so bad for mine and hate my ex husband so much sometimes for leaving them.









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