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My daughters father is in jail up to 20 yeArs

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He was my first love i met him when i was 13 since then he was always in problems with the law most of our realatinship he was in and out of juvy. Now he is in jAil he has court tomorow and might give him up to 20 years. Me and him had a huge fight before he got cought (he was on the run like for a year) so since his been in jail i havent talked to him or anything i knw he got another girl pregnant before he got cought and shes been paying for lawyers and they are going to het married hes brother told me he asked for my adress but i dnt knw if to keep contact with him or not i kinda feel bad for him he is barely 22
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:47 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:05 AM
Thanks and i am 22. And i have taken care if my daughter on my own since day 1. Thank god i finished highschool And have An ok job that i can take cRe of me and my daughter just fine. I have moved on its just sometimes i cant help but feel bad wich i shouldnt. Am glad you came out just fine i hope my daughter does to until now shes great realy smart and realy happy


Quoting ItsMega_:

You may have already said this, but how old are you?

I have had family, friends, coworkers and my sons father who were sentenced to jail time. AND I am a corrections officer myself. Let me tell you one thing, a man in jail can do NOTHING for you. This guy doesn't sound like anything I'd want around even if he wasn't incarcerated. Move on, do better for yourself and your child. Everyone makes mistakes, but it sounds to me like he never learned from any of his. Good luck. When I was growing up my bio. father was in and out of prision, and had numerous kids by numerous other women, we have no relationship whatsoever (nothing positive anyway). I haven't spoke to him in years, and I turned out just fine. It's hard and it hurts but sometimes, that's just how life is. Stay strong and keep your head up!


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:06 AM
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I just can't get over your spelling errors and word placements.
WritingSpider
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:09 AM

My dad was abusive and went to jail for 15 plus years. The address is just because that's a BIG life line in prison. At least that would be my guess. He was, of course, not writing me, but my father probably went through 200 note pads. Mail day is very important. He probably wants to recieve and send mail to his daughter.

If you feel sorry for him, he must have some redeeming qualities. Perhaps this will open his eyes and make him the person God intended him to be. Sometimes we take WRONG turns like that and it takes something BIG like this to change our ways.

 

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:10 AM
Thank you I dnt think i would ever take her to see him eather i guess my mistake was staying with him in our teens when he kept Fu**ing up. But as soon as i found out i was pregnant maybe a little to late i left him and have worked hard to give her what she needs amd wants. And my baby has the best father figure i would ever want for her my dad.


Quoting bribabyfever7:

That's so good and i hope it continues to get better and better for ever......



I just would not ever take my child to see her "father" who does things to jeopardize their relationship and land himself behind bars for visiting hours to see him... my ex did this. And expected me to stay with him after lies and lies and lies. He went to prison and i said good bye-! I dont steal from people, do drugs, or anything criminally related so he needs someone who has his lying capabilities and criminal behavior qualities best of luck to them. Find a real Father figure for your beautiful baby




Quoting Anonymous:

Thak god me and my daughter already have a great life. And as i het older i hope its better too






Quoting bribabyfever7:

Say good bye to him.... like years ago. Make a life for you and your baby. A good life without criminalities in it..............











Trust me.



ItsMega_
by Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:10 AM
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Of course, that's understandable. And its already a stressful situation when the other parent isn't involved in general. Just make sure she knows she is loved. DON'T rush into any relationships, and be very cautious who you bring around your daughter. THAT will make a huge impact. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:11 AM
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You dont have to be reading it :)


Quoting Anonymous:

I just can't get over your spelling errors and word placements.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:16 AM
Yeah he would tell me that when he would get locked up in juvy. And actually to me he was great just not to other people and hopefuly he changes his ways if not too bad for him and his family


Quoting WritingSpider:

My dad was abusive and went to jail for 15 plus years. The address is just because that's a BIG life line in prison. At least that would be my guess. He was, of course, not writing me, but my father probably went through 200 note pads. Mail day is very important. He probably wants to recieve and send mail to his daughter.


If you feel sorry for him, he must have some redeeming qualities. Perhaps this will open his eyes and make him the person God intended him to be. Sometimes we take WRONG turns like that and it takes something BIG like this to change our ways.


 


 


bribabyfever7
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:20 AM
Hey you know what thank god for her grandpa! (Ps...i dont care about ur spelling... some people are literature professors on here... loll) i think a lot of us believe those teen years we are supposed to get into trouble (although...i didnt... everrrr! Ha ha) yiu know and learn from it and we dont knoe that some people woll get into bad trouble and some change true, but others..... they just dont change. They continue to be ignorant and troubled... chalk it up to having a loving heart and high hopes. Definitely cherish your dad for being a good role model for her and giving her attention and esp. Helping you be a successful mom but what ever it takes succeed in all you do so that you can have a peaceful life and provide for your daughters needs and then some


Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you I dnt think i would ever take her to see him eather i guess my mistake was staying with him in our teens when he kept Fu**ing up. But as soon as i found out i was pregnant maybe a little to late i left him and have worked hard to give her what she needs amd wants. And my baby has the best father figure i would ever want for her my dad.




Quoting bribabyfever7:

That's so good and i hope it continues to get better and better for ever......





I just would not ever take my child to see her "father" who does things to jeopardize their relationship and land himself behind bars for visiting hours to see him... my ex did this. And expected me to stay with him after lies and lies and lies. He went to prison and i said good bye-! I dont steal from people, do drugs, or anything criminally related so he needs someone who has his lying capabilities and criminal behavior qualities best of luck to them. Find a real Father figure for your beautiful baby






Quoting Anonymous:

Thak god me and my daughter already have a great life. And as i het older i hope its better too








Quoting bribabyfever7:

Say good bye to him.... like years ago. Make a life for you and your baby. A good life without criminalities in it..............














Trust me.




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WritingSpider
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:27 AM

 I'm sorry you are going through this. You have a tender heart. That is a good thing. But you also have to remember that you can't dwell on these things. The best thing you can do is be there for your little girl as I am sure you will be. Pray for him. Don't get too wrapped up in feeling bad or crying. If you must do so for a few minutes then move on. Even if you must do so time and time again.

I know it's hard and I know people don't really "get it" that have never had a loved one in prison. Of course I would never go back around my dad after all he did to us for fear of safety - a child of abuse never forgets that there used to be an on and off button quickly pushed without realizing. But he was still my daddy and I felt bad for him. Even though he did it all on his own account. That just means that you are a special person.

My dad not only did things to us - he eventually shot himself. He lives with half his brain. But while in prison something seemed to CLICK finally. He was known as the prison "preacher". He finally got it was his fault. He prayed for other people and tried to tell them not to do what he did. There is redemption in even the most crappy of situations.

I will be praying for you and your family. CBN has a pray chat line that's great. Just hug that baby, have some ice cream and remember it will all be ok. God is super faithful that way I have found.

 

 

 

 


Quoting Anonymous:

Yeah he would tell me that when he would get locked up in juvy. And actually to me he was great just not to other people and hopefuly he changes his ways if not too bad for him and his family


Quoting WritingSpider:

My dad was abusive and went to jail for 15 plus years. The address is just because that's a BIG life line in prison. At least that would be my guess. He was, of course, not writing me, but my father probably went through 200 note pads. Mail day is very important. He probably wants to recieve and send mail to his daughter.


If you feel sorry for him, he must have some redeeming qualities. Perhaps this will open his eyes and make him the person God intended him to be. Sometimes we take WRONG turns like that and it takes something BIG like this to change our ways.


 


 



 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:27 AM
Yes thank god. Lol i dont care english is my second language so i dont realy care lol. And thank you for the advise.


Quoting bribabyfever7:

Hey you know what thank god for her grandpa! (Ps...i dont care about ur spelling... some people are literature professors on here... loll) i think a lot of us believe those teen years we are supposed to get into trouble (although...i didnt... everrrr! Ha ha) yiu know and learn from it and we dont knoe that some people woll get into bad trouble and some change true, but others..... they just dont change. They continue to be ignorant and troubled... chalk it up to having a loving heart and high hopes. Definitely cherish your dad for being a good role model for her and giving her attention and esp. Helping you be a successful mom but what ever it takes succeed in all you do so that you can have a peaceful life and provide for your daughters needs and then some




Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you I dnt think i would ever take her to see him eather i guess my mistake was staying with him in our teens when he kept Fu**ing up. But as soon as i found out i was pregnant maybe a little to late i left him and have worked hard to give her what she needs amd wants. And my baby has the best father figure i would ever want for her my dad.






Quoting bribabyfever7:

That's so good and i hope it continues to get better and better for ever......







I just would not ever take my child to see her "father" who does things to jeopardize their relationship and land himself behind bars for visiting hours to see him... my ex did this. And expected me to stay with him after lies and lies and lies. He went to prison and i said good bye-! I dont steal from people, do drugs, or anything criminally related so he needs someone who has his lying capabilities and criminal behavior qualities best of luck to them. Find a real Father figure for your beautiful baby








Quoting Anonymous:

Thak god me and my daughter already have a great life. And as i het older i hope its better too










Quoting bribabyfever7:

Say good bye to him.... like years ago. Make a life for you and your baby. A good life without criminalities in it..............

















Trust me.





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