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My twins are 5 years old. I love them to pieces but lately they have been driving me freaking crazy! Maybe because I am pregnant but I don't know they seem to love and adore the baby and talking to it in my belly! They act on each other and fight all the time. I have to literally put them in the corner to get them to stop fighting!

I am going to look into karate and swimming this summer they enjoy both of those so maybe that will help and maybe once they start Kindergarten in the fall they will enjoy having more time out of the house and away from each other! Right now they only go to prek 2.5 hours a day 4 days a week.

If any of you have twins around my twins age or older and they act/acted crazy how do or did you solve their wildness!

S/n my twins have speech delays but I ASSSURE you they get it and they talk good now but still have a lot of jibberish talk at times.

I just hate always feeling like I am yelling or punishing someone that is not the kind of mom I want to be. I do as many activities as we can at home (I live in Pa and the weather sucks right now) but we do board games, color, puzzels, I have them dance to songs on their leap pads and have them help me with dinner and chores and so on. I just don't know sometimes what else to do to help them get along and what to do to get them to listen to me! I may start a sticker chart like they have at school that seems to work for the teachers haha!

by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 1:57 AM
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jackieb2811
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:24 AM

Your girls are very pretty!

Mine NEVER got along so I hope and pray that that changes and they end up close! They never liked sleeping or even playing with one another that is how bad it was but now they will. They do care about one another and can be sweet with each other but normally they just want to get the other in trouble lol!

My twins did the twin talk still do at times but I have been with them all day everyday from the time they were born so I know the language all to well haha! My one twin didn't start talking until he was around 2 I got them into Early Intervention and that has helped and so did school but now they need more time at school I feel.

The karate is something I really feel will help them get out some energy and aggression and mostly discipline because they are really lacking it and no matter what I do or say it is like I am invincible. Which is hard for me becuase I have always been the discipline area but they just don't care to hear me anymore.

Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

I have 16 y/o twin girls..when they were little they got along well but when they turned 10 it all changed and they fought ALL THE TIME...thy have started to get along better now.  Not sure if Karate is a good idea..they might come home and try it on each other!  LOL  As far as the speech goes, that's normal for twins.  Some times twins will even make up their own language between each other...mine didn't do that but they didn't talk much at all.  Their 3rd grade teacher wanted them tested for "selective muteness"  I declined b/c I knew there was nothing wrong with them.  They are still very quiet to this day...Good Luck!!!



MrsGuerrero92
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:25 AM
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I have 14 year old identical boys. My only advice is; be patient momma!!!! It'll get easier. When I had my twins, I had a 2 year old. When my twins were 2 I had another baby. So as you can see, I was going crazy; just like you. It does get easier as they grow up. Hang in there.
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3mommyandwifey
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:27 AM
Wow single parent to twins. That's hard... looks like you ate doing a good job.. good luck with them and baby on the way.!


Quoting jackieb2811:

Thanks lol.

I never even thought twins when I first got pregnant and about passed out when I was told but when I seen the screen I was immediately excited! I have pretty much been a single parent to them because their dad never helpd much with raising them. I met my SO and he not only supports us but is a great father figure and so good to them!

It is fun most of the time they crack me up with the things they come up with but they have days were nothing goes right! I get stressed out with how much they compete!

Me and SO are not finding out until the baby comes in May :-)


Quoting 3mommyandwifey:

OMG they are so cute.....I would love twins but not everything you are going through. Are you having a boy or girl on the way?





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3mommyandwifey
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:28 AM
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Adorable


Quoting KYLIEAARONMOMMY:

I have twin boys and they are 3. They are already crazy at this age. I was hoping to hear that it gets easier as the get older. My boys have a speech delay too. One of them speaks more and better for then the other. They fight a lot, but are also buddies. There personalities are very different. Uploaded with Imgupr

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jackieb2811
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:29 AM
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I mean somedays it is they are more independent and want to be which is great (at first it was hard letting them expand their boudries I was afraid to let go of my little babies but I did it!) but now they feel like they are top dog. I have done and tried every type of punishment it feels like and SO and I have very few tricks left up our sleeve and then we have no idea what there is left to do!

My boys go back and forth with progress Well, they did now one is better at talking while one is good at problem solving and figuring out how things work. Your boys are cuties! My boys are soooo different sometimes I wonder if they are twins lol


Quoting KYLIEAARONMOMMY:

I have twin boys and they are 3. They are already crazy at this age. I was hoping to hear that it gets easier as the get older. My boys have a speech delay too. One of them speaks more and better for then the other. They fight a lot, but are also buddies. There personalities are very different. Uploaded with Imgupr



BelleVernonGirl
by Gold Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:30 AM

 Thanks!  Mine went to head start b/c of being so shy...they only wanted each other.  When they turned 10 and started fighting I separated them in school...it didn't help...then my one girl failed 7th grade so they ended up really being separate!  I thought I was going to loose her b/c she just didn't care about school...just socializing...but when she hit high school it all changed..she makes honor roll every nine weeks for the last 2 years!  She started voc tech for cosmetology this year and has the highest grade in her class and wants to go to nursing school...So my advice to you is don't stress to much...I think things have a way of working themselves out kwim? 


Quoting jackieb2811:

Your girls are very pretty!

Mine NEVER got along so I hope and pray that that changes and they end up close! They never liked sleeping or even playing with one another that is how bad it was but now they will. They do care about one another and can be sweet with each other but normally they just want to get the other in trouble lol!

My twins did the twin talk still do at times but I have been with them all day everyday from the time they were born so I know the language all to well haha! My one twin didn't start talking until he was around 2 I got them into Early Intervention and that has helped and so did school but now they need more time at school I feel.

The karate is something I really feel will help them get out some energy and aggression and mostly discipline because they are really lacking it and no matter what I do or say it is like I am invincible. Which is hard for me becuase I have always been the discipline area but they just don't care to hear me anymore.

Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

I have 16 y/o twin girls..when they were little they got along well but when they turned 10 it all changed and they fought ALL THE TIME...thy have started to get along better now.  Not sure if Karate is a good idea..they might come home and try it on each other!  LOL  As far as the speech goes, that's normal for twins.  Some times twins will even make up their own language between each other...mine didn't do that but they didn't talk much at all.  Their 3rd grade teacher wanted them tested for "selective muteness"  I declined b/c I knew there was nothing wrong with them.  They are still very quiet to this day...Good Luck!!!

 

 


 

jackieb2811
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:32 AM

Their dad was there financially but that is it I did all the work and even helped raise his older kid at the time. I try to do what I can and SO is always there to help too he has been amazing and loves them very much he is also on the search for how to handle twins which I think is great he is trying to help us figure out the best ways to raise them. He sees how going to their dads effects their behavior but nothing I can do about that.


Quoting 3mommyandwifey:

Wow single parent to twins. That's hard... looks like you ate doing a good job.. good luck with them and baby on the way.!


Quoting jackieb2811:

Thanks lol.

I never even thought twins when I first got pregnant and about passed out when I was told but when I seen the screen I was immediately excited! I have pretty much been a single parent to them because their dad never helpd much with raising them. I met my SO and he not only supports us but is a great father figure and so good to them!

It is fun most of the time they crack me up with the things they come up with but they have days were nothing goes right! I get stressed out with how much they compete!

Me and SO are not finding out until the baby comes in May :-)


Quoting 3mommyandwifey:

OMG they are so cute.....I would love twins but not everything you are going through. Are you having a boy or girl on the way?







LucyMom08
by BS Intolerant on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:34 AM

 My kids aren't twins, but they are close in age...when they start fighting, I make them sit on the couch holding hands...it works like a charm, haha...

jackieb2811
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:38 AM
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That isso awesome! I know they learn more and learn lessons as they mature and at 5 you can never tell but man I just wish they would listen to me and SO! I for one know time and experiences can change you I was a bad and wild teen I just hope they don't rebel like I did I don't have it in me to deal with it haha! Oh btw I am from the pgh area lol How could you tell ;-) hahahaha!

I am really happy to hear your girls have come so far and are doing well it does give me hope that things will just work out and all this hard work and effort will pay off!

Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

 Thanks!  Mine went to head start b/c of being so shy...they only wanted each other.  When they turned 10 and started fighting I separated them in school...it didn't help...then my one girl failed 7th grade so they ended up really being separate!  I thought I was going to loose her b/c she just didn't care about school...just socializing...but when she hit high school it all changed..she makes honor roll every nine weeks for the last 2 years!  She started voc tech for cosmetology this year and has the highest grade in her class and wants to go to nursing school...So my advice to you is don't stress to much...I think things have a way of working themselves out kwim? 


Quoting jackieb2811:

Your girls are very pretty!

Mine NEVER got along so I hope and pray that that changes and they end up close! They never liked sleeping or even playing with one another that is how bad it was but now they will. They do care about one another and can be sweet with each other but normally they just want to get the other in trouble lol!

My twins did the twin talk still do at times but I have been with them all day everyday from the time they were born so I know the language all to well haha! My one twin didn't start talking until he was around 2 I got them into Early Intervention and that has helped and so did school but now they need more time at school I feel.

The karate is something I really feel will help them get out some energy and aggression and mostly discipline because they are really lacking it and no matter what I do or say it is like I am invincible. Which is hard for me becuase I have always been the discipline area but they just don't care to hear me anymore.

Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

I have 16 y/o twin girls..when they were little they got along well but when they turned 10 it all changed and they fought ALL THE TIME...thy have started to get along better now.  Not sure if Karate is a good idea..they might come home and try it on each other!  LOL  As far as the speech goes, that's normal for twins.  Some times twins will even make up their own language between each other...mine didn't do that but they didn't talk much at all.  Their 3rd grade teacher wanted them tested for "selective muteness"  I declined b/c I knew there was nothing wrong with them.  They are still very quiet to this day...Good Luck!!!







jackieb2811
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:40 AM

When they fight I make mine hug and say sorry lol 5 minutes later they go to their room and are at it again so I repeat the process and if it doesn't stop they go to the corner. I can't sit them next to one another for one sitting is like torture to them and 2. they will pick and push at each other so putting them in seperate locations is the only solution!


Quoting LucyMom08:

 My kids aren't twins, but they are close in age...when they start fighting, I make them sit on the couch holding hands...it works like a charm, haha...



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