my x is an abusive drunk. he has been in and our of ds's life for years. there is a lot of other issues thats he just ignores. a few weeks before Christmas we talked and I laid it out for him as simply as i could. if he wants to be involed he needs to do a few things. First pay some kind of child support, i dont care if it's 20 bucks a week but take responsibility. Second he needs see him on a consistentbasis. the court order says he gets him every other weekend but my ds can not sleep over where he lives and will go months with out trying to see him. The last thing was to call. He has never called ds just to talk or see if he was ok or needed anything. I have never said he could not call and when ds is with him I call him.
So when he called last week to see if he could take ds for the day I said no. I told him again if he wants to see him he needs to pay support and be consistent! He hung up and I have not heard from him sense. I am so glad that I have sole custody and final decision making power. I will be going back to court soon to propose that he gives up all rights and stop the support order. if he does not want to be a father I will make it very easy for him.