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Do NOT put me on a pedestal!

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Question: Does your SO put you on a pedestal?


Yes and I love it.

Yes, but it annoys me.

No and I'm glad.

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DF likes to tell me how perfect I am and it's starting to really get to me. I am NOT by ANY means perfect. I am human. I have my flaws and I make mistakes. 

It has started affecting our relationship. Any time I make a mistake or my flaws are visible, he starts to withdraw and it's getting on my nerve. 

Don't put me on a damn pedestal and you wouldn't be dissapointed when you realize I am no a goddess, but only human.

(It is starting to get better because I keep talking to him about it.)

by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:57 AM
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by Ruby Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 5:16 PM

You're right. To me it means that a person cannot seek any faults in another person.

Quoting sheymann:

I think we use the term differently. To me being put on a pedestal means the thing you are perfect and expect you to be super-human.

Quoting AllieReed:

What I'm trying to say is that if he really has you on a pedestal then he wouldn't have such high expectations of you. We all have our faults, but if you can't keep someone on the "pedestal" when they aren't perfect then they never had you on one.

Quoting sheymann:

It's only when I break the "perfect" imagine that he does that, so yes, he does.

Quoting AllieReed:

He doesn't REALLY have you on a pedastal if he is disappointed in you or withdrawing from you.

by Platinum Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 5:33 PM
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My experience is a little different, my husband puts me on a pedestal and makes everyone sick of hearing about it. His family tells him that I don't have super powers. And everything is my wife this,my wife that and it drives other people nuts. We have been married for 12 years together for 14 and he is lucky someone hasn't hurt him a long time ago. But it can get really old when someone never expects you to screw up.

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