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adoption vs. abortion

Anonymous
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http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/learn-about-adoption-waiting-children.html

There are over 550,000 children in foster care in the United States.

Children of color outnumber white children in foster care. Of the children in foster care:

  • 39% were Black non-Hispanic;
  • 34% were White non-Hispanic;
  • 17% were Hispanic;
  • 2% were American Indian/Alaskan Native;
  • 1% Asian/Pacific Islander; and
  • 7% were of unknown or other racial/ethnic background.



The average (mean) age of children in foster care was 9.9 years. The average (mean) length of time that children had been in foster care was 32 months.

The United States Department of Health and Human Services estimates that as many as 127,000 children in foster care needed adoptive families. The ethnic backgrounds of these children are as follows:

  • 42% were African American
  • 32% were White
  • 15% were Hispanic
  • 1% were Native American/Alaskan Native
  • 1% were Asian/Pacific Islander
  • 8% were of unknown/unable to determine ethnic backgrounds



The average mean age of children waiting to be adopted is 7.9 years. More than 70% of the children are under the age of 11.

The mean length of time that these children have been in foster care is 44 months.

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This being said, can I ask WHY people who are against abortion always use the "give the baby up for adoption" arguement when their are already plenty of kids waiting to be adopted? why add to that number?

I am pro choice, but I just hate when a prolifer uses this arguement about people waiting to adopt and to give the baby up for adoption to one of those couples when there is already a bunch of children waiting on a home.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:24 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:28 PM
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You forgot to include all the hoops people have to jump through, and the insane cost and such it is to adopt children in this country. And to be honest, I wouldn't want to adopt out of the foster care system.
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by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:33 PM

BUMP!

HelloSweetie
by Gold Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:33 PM
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THANK YOU!!!!!!

smushy79
by Gold Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:34 PM
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 I wonder the same thing OP.

HelloSweetie
by Gold Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:34 PM

You'd rather women who don't want children have more? You'd rather thousands of children sit unwanted and unloved in an uncaring system?

Quoting Anonymous:

You forgot to include all the hoops people have to jump through, and the insane cost and such it is to adopt children in this country. And to be honest, I wouldn't want to adopt out of the foster care system.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:38 PM
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My questions is for the prolifers who say "put it up for adoption" but then turn around and have thier own biological children instead of adopting. Who are you to talk when you aren't doing anything to solve the problem of so many children needing a home and you are pushing for another child to be added to the strain of an already overflowing system?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:39 PM
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Why? Because a child in foster care isn't a white newborn baby??



Quoting Anonymous:

You forgot to include all the hoops people have to jump through, and the insane cost and such it is to adopt children in this country. And to be honest, I wouldn't want to adopt out of the foster care system.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:42 PM
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Nope. Not even close. I don't want to deal with the baggage that would come with the child. I know there are people out there who can. I am not one of those people.

Quoting Anonymous:

Why? Because a child in foster care isn't a white newborn baby??







Quoting Anonymous:

You forgot to include all the hoops people have to jump through, and the insane cost and such it is to adopt children in this country. And to be honest, I wouldn't want to adopt out of the foster care system.
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by ☆Mrs.Winchester☆ on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:43 PM
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I dont support adoption agencies at all. they jack up the prices to where it costs thousands and thousands of dollars to adopt a child, then bitch because they dont get adopted. Bet if they lowered the costs and werent so picky about who the kids go to ( I dont mean relax so they can go to abusers, I mean great couples who arent allowed to adopt because of something stupid ), they would find so many more homes for these kids. I am all for adoptions done privately though. 

Kimsundaram
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 12:44 PM
Pretty much yep :/ no one ever has a prob adopting out a new baby

As for the foster care thing I think it's confusing cuz not all those kids are there to be like legally adopted,,, alot have parents are in foster care for a variety of reasons they go bak home eventually sometimes ,,, I think if anyone is looking to adopt they try for a new born

The foster care social system needs a major over haul here. As there are children who need to be adopted and those willing to but it's just so much to go thru.



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Why? Because a child in foster care isn't a white newborn baby??







Quoting Anonymous:

You forgot to include all the hoops people have to jump through, and the insane cost and such it is to adopt children in this country. And to be honest, I wouldn't want to adopt out of the foster care system.

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