my hubby asked if he would ever be able to have a threesome, because he "just wants tob e able to say he had one at least once in life"
I said no. he got kinda sad and i explained it would make me too sad. but then i said, MAYBE we can have sex with another couple that is married and do a partner swap, MAYBE but not anytime soon. now hes been asking me about it and truth be told, i kinda expected him to say no because he didnt want another man touching me. but now hes saying hes ok with it.
i want to be cautious because i wouldnt want it to ruin our relationship, so that immediatly makes me want tos ay no. but i have to say the thought of it does turn me on, but im just worried that once we will do it things will never be the same between us.
let me just say right here, he is terrible in bed. so it would be nice for me to have another man, and i am bisexual so i could mess with the wife as well, but i dont want it to ruin us and i dont know if that sort of thign would. we have a very strong relationship and we are incredible at communicating with each other, ive voiced all my concerns and the pros and cons with him. i also told him it definitely wouldnt be for a few years because right now we have a baby, and with my post baby body - uh hell no. lol i barely want my husband seeing me naked, how am i expected to impress some random couple? also i'd be scared of STDs...and i'd be scared of someone getting pregnant (hey it happens..) so i dont know, maybe when im menopausal way far down the road and there is no spark left in our love life. idk lol. what do you think? can couples swing without it ruining their marriage?
im scared it might make him feel inferior if another man gets me off better than he can.
and im scared it might make me feel inferior if the woman is better than i am.
normal concerns im sure. does anyone here swing?