What is his role in all of this?

[LuLuThatsWho]

In your opinion, what should be the role of the father in the early months of a child's life?  

I have newborn twins, and I am curious what responsibilities most dads have.  Tell me a little about your husband's role in your child's babyhood.  What did he do?  How did you feel about his role?

**I would really like to get an accurate picture of how most couples handle new baby responsibilities, so please include any relevant information that explains your personal situation.  IE: "I did everything on my own because he was deployed." or "My husband took care of as many feedings and diaperings as me, but he was unemployed at the time."

[poshkat]

Dh did everything I did when he was home and than went to work. He and ds are very close.

[LuLuThatsWho]

This is something that I wonder about.  Are fathers who are very active early on closer with their children?  I would think so.

Lucky you that he was so involved!! :)

Quoting poshkat:

Dh did everything I did when he was home and than went to work. He and ds are very close.

[NowImAMom...]

He was unemployed in the begining, and did what I asked him to. I did and still do pretty much everything.

[aimlee]

he did everything I would do. Feedings were mainly up to me, but otherwise he does baths, diapers anything. And he works. He just loves to be around the kids. :)

[Anonymous]

we share the duties, he will get up at night with the babe because I am still home with him all day on maternity leave, and in the evenings when he gets home he ususally takes over so I can prepare dinner. We just both do whatever has/needs to be done.

[Miller0305]

My husband did it all: feedings, even in the middle of the night, diapers, etc.  You name it, he did it even though I was on maternitiy leave and he worked.  Now with twins, your husband for sure needs to step it up and help you.

[MalakbelLacuna]

In the beginning, I take the lead but its by choice. I make all the major choices. I prefer it that way and he does too. He does whatever I ask him to do.
When they hit about ten months, he is much much more hands on.
Again this is all choice. If I wanted him to be more hands on, all I would have to do is ask

[s.osborne]

 We both work full time and we both put full time into the baby. 50/50, well 100/100 I guess lol

[Hazel2013]

During the week I usually was the one to wake up and feed the baby and change him due to the fact that he worked during the week. On the weekends which started friday afternoon he would take over or help. He would get up with him and feed and change him. It stayed that way and none of complained. There were times during the week I would be really exhausted and he would get but he didnt mind.

[eoewan]

My husband was as much a parent as me. When he was on his days off he would do as much as me. He would change, play, cuddle, clean, wash, etc. We are both parents to our children. It is not ones job more than the other. When my husband was at work, I would do it by myself.