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No, I'm not embarrassed.

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READ and re-read if you don't get it. The picture I posted in this link is not the same picture my DF posted on FB that upset me. He can post pictures of his son all he wants I just did not want the picture where he has blood and tubes all over him posted. 

        Recently my LO had major surgery (refer to my link for more info on that) and we of course took a picture of him after just to have a picture of him with all his tubes and wires. My DF posted the picture on FB and I asked him to take it down. He later asked me if I was embarrassed of our child's current condition. I told him no I was not, I just felt it was not something to publicly display on FB. My dad ended up sharing it before my DF took it down. I explained to him there are about 400 or more people idk who are not close to us seeing that picture. It's a heart breaking picture of an infant in recovery. I told him I have no problem with showing the picture to select people but not the world. Do you agree with my decision to request they both remove the picture. Does it mean anything bad on my part to not want to display it like that?

by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:09 PM
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by Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 1:54 PM

me and my husband were having the same problem when my 6 month daughter at them time was going there the same thing and my twins were in the nic unit we did agree to send fw threw our phones to people who we felt should to know. we didnt allow any body else to send ether. when they were in the nic unit we only let 2 people go and see them the whole 3 months they were there we didnt want them to get sick all over and my daughter still ended up getting sick and having to do surgery when she was 6 months

by Anonymous 19 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:01 PM

personally i don't like seeing pics like that pop up on my fb feed, so i would never post one myself. i'd probably wait until he was cleaned up and recovered more to put up a pic and just keep the gross ones (you know what i mean, tubes, wires, blood etc) to myself.

by Anonymous 20 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:08 PM

you shouldnt have taken it if you didnt want it shared. now days practically everything goes on facebbok and you should have thought about that when taking it. or like somone else said you could have set it to private so only people on your friends list could see it

by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:11 PM

I wouldn't want it up either. Especially since people LOVE pictures like that to try and get likes and shares by making up some phony story. 

I have pictures of my cousin in the hospital, he was going threw numerous surgerys and in the ICU. We were really close, and I was in the hospital with him the majority of the time he was there (on and off for a few months) I would NEVER post them online, because I think he would have been uncomfortable with EVERYONE seeing him like that. But it is just a way for me to remember that journey that he went threw as me, his mother, and his grandmother stood by his side. 
Sadly he passed, and now those pictures mean ever so much more to me, as they were my last moments with him.
But regardless. I don't think pictures like that should be shared with just anyone. Close family, close friends, maybe. But not on a public website where anyone can access them.

BTW, hope your little one is better soon!  

by Anonymous 21 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:15 PM

I hate FB.  Too much drama (much like your situation has caused).  But, that having been's HIS baby, too.  If he felt right about posting it on HIS FB page, then, it was HIS right to do so.  If you don't want it on your FB page, then don't post it.

by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:15 PM
hmmmm I think it's an individual decision and people have dif ways of coping and you need to let him cope how he needs to.
by Gold Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:31 PM

I agree, it's not something to be embarrassed about but it certainly is a very private thing to share and I wouldn't want it in a public forum either. I think he should have shown much more consideration for your LO and you by not posting it in the first place.

by Silver Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:37 PM

 After my son passed away my husband posted pictures of him and it really upset me and I asked him to take them down. They were just extremely private and I didnt want just anyone seeing those pictures. I have since wanted to share my son and share his pictures just like I share pictures of my girls, but sometimes stuff like that is just to personal to share with just anyone.

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by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:39 PM

What's the difference in posting it on facebook or posting it on here?  We are all complete strangers you are sharing it with.

by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:39 PM

 I completely understand. My son had IVs in his head soon after he was born due to his medical condition. I took a picture of that but it's not a photo I would show to everyone, it was just to have. I wouldn't want the world of FB seeing that either.

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