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No, I'm not embarrassed.

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      http://www.cafemom.com/group/115189/forums/read/17961023/Pray_for_my_baby_final_update 

READ and re-read if you don't get it. The picture I posted in this link is not the same picture my DF posted on FB that upset me. He can post pictures of his son all he wants I just did not want the picture where he has blood and tubes all over him posted. 


        Recently my LO had major surgery (refer to my link for more info on that) and we of course took a picture of him after just to have a picture of him with all his tubes and wires. My DF posted the picture on FB and I asked him to take it down. He later asked me if I was embarrassed of our child's current condition. I told him no I was not, I just felt it was not something to publicly display on FB. My dad ended up sharing it before my DF took it down. I explained to him there are about 400 or more people idk who are not close to us seeing that picture. It's a heart breaking picture of an infant in recovery. I told him I have no problem with showing the picture to select people but not the world. Do you agree with my decision to request they both remove the picture. Does it mean anything bad on my part to not want to display it like that?

by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:09 PM
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JOEJULA
by Bronze Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 5:12 PM

yes I completely agree he has to respect your wishes

carolyntx
by Gold Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 5:15 PM
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it wouldnt bother me, its the truth its reality. 

babycakes041903
by Bronze Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 5:17 PM

I'm glad they respected you; that's really great:)

Quoting angelmj:

I did and they respected my wishes.



Quoting babycakes041903:

I'd definitely be upset then:( I'd tell your fil and df to take them down. That's a private pic for close family.

Quoting angelmj:


Oh no that picture I shared was before his surgery, the one he posted was just terrible to see. I mean he had a tube sticking out his chest with blood in it.. It was too much for me to want to show FB. 



Quoting babycakes041903:

Is it the same pic u shared? Bc if so then it wouldn't be fair to get upset w him... But if it was a more private pic I could see why you're upset.









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angelachristine
by Platinum Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 5:26 PM

why does he have to? I'm not trying to be mean but i think she has a right to ask him to take it down but that's his kid too so I think he has the right to say no if he wants. I'm glad it all worked out though. 


Quoting JOEJULA:

yes I completely agree he has to respect your wishes



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Pooobaihr
by Platinum Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 5:56 PM
I won't say you were wrong, it is your kid and all. But idk, I wouldn't mind my df sharing the photo. The baby just got out of surgery and did wonderfully. Regardless of how he looked when the pic was taken, id want to share it with everyone. But that's just me.
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MrsMumolo
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 6:10 PM

Absolutely agree with you. I would not want a pic like that posted either. In all honesty, it breaks my heart every time someone DOES post pics like that.

I am like a) that is hard for people to look at and can be upsetting to some people, and b) PRIVACY for crying out loud...your privacy, your baby's privacy, etc. You have every right to ask hubs and dads to remove the post.

gamelas
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 6:20 PM

i don't think a medically complex photo posted for prayers and well wishes posted by the daddy is offensive or innapropriate.

sophiesister2
by Gold Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 6:22 PM
You're the mom its your call. Whatever you say goes! Lol
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Shan973
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 6:24 PM

If it is his son, you have no right to tell him what he can and cannot post. If he feels the need to share this with his FB people that maybe how he gets support and comfort. Sorry!

Bonnie1937
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 6:24 PM
Some people are just not sensitive....even those we hope would be.
So sad.
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