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No, I'm not embarrassed.

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      http://www.cafemom.com/group/115189/forums/read/17961023/Pray_for_my_baby_final_update 

READ and re-read if you don't get it. The picture I posted in this link is not the same picture my DF posted on FB that upset me. He can post pictures of his son all he wants I just did not want the picture where he has blood and tubes all over him posted. 


        Recently my LO had major surgery (refer to my link for more info on that) and we of course took a picture of him after just to have a picture of him with all his tubes and wires. My DF posted the picture on FB and I asked him to take it down. He later asked me if I was embarrassed of our child's current condition. I told him no I was not, I just felt it was not something to publicly display on FB. My dad ended up sharing it before my DF took it down. I explained to him there are about 400 or more people idk who are not close to us seeing that picture. It's a heart breaking picture of an infant in recovery. I told him I have no problem with showing the picture to select people but not the world. Do you agree with my decision to request they both remove the picture. Does it mean anything bad on my part to not want to display it like that?

by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:09 PM
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zuzusmomma
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 2:29 PM
You are justified in being uncomfortable with that. I am a firm believer that some people post information on FB that is too personal and inappropriate. I am appalled on a daily basis with some of the posts I see. My little sisters SIL had a late term miscarriage in November and she posted pictures of her baby boy after the delivery. I was infuriated when I saw that. Some people cope with hardships in different ways but FB? Really!?
PP-9
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 2:30 PM
First of all your DF needs to RESPECT you, and your LO. The pic is something that's private, and ypu don't wanna share it...period. He shouldn't be such a jerk. I had premiee twins at 33.4 wks, and a lot of pics my husband ad I took will never be posted on fb or any other site. Respect
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ACDC_fan
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 2:34 PM

I agree one thousand percent. That's an emotional photo of your baby to have, let alone think of hundreds of total strangers seeing it. You said take it down- end of story. 
 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2013 at 2:37 PM
I wouldn't. You know what happens when you post pictures like that? They end up all over all different pages with bogus stories attached and a caption of "Like within 10 seconds and Jimmy's cancer will be cured."

I'm with you. It's private.
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atyou
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 2:40 PM
I totally agree, babe. My son also has several pictures in which he is essentially holding onto life....that I have only shared with very few people. Those photos are private and painful and precious all in one.

Hope your little one is recovering nicely.
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ronvot
by Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 2:42 PM
I agree with you.
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KyrinM
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 2:45 PM

I agree, that is not a picture that should be public, mainly cause there are some sick people out there who could use it to make some kind of advertisement about something completely unrelated to why your LO had all those wires & tubes to misinform people about some agenda of theirs. 

mickey3912
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 6:06 PM

i agree w/ u 100%!!! i would only want a few people looking not the whole world

kortney712
by Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 8:46 PM

I pray your little one has a speedy recovery.

BellaByrdie
by Gold Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:22 AM
Like I said I do understand where your coming from. I wouldnt want a pic like that posted either. And as long as you would show him the same respect in regards to what gets posted about your little one then I don't see it as wrong.

By the way I hope you little one keeps getting better and better. I don't know who you are but god does so I'll light a candle for you.


Quoting angelmj:

He could have said no if he wanted to. I never demanded it be taken down I just asked. And he does have the power to say what he finds okay and not okay to post. I have taken things down -mostly pictures of him- at his request.




Quoting BellaByrdie:

I both agree and disagree. I wouldn't want that type of pic shared but it is his child too. And your father could have made it so that only select people can see the picture. But that is his son too. And while its good that he respects your wishes. I wonder did you talk to him about why he put it up there in the first place. He has the right to share his journey with his child just like you do. And dictating that he can't post something should also give him veto powers on the pics you post of him too.


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