Earlier at work, I was talking with a coworker about being excited about a new baby. I am 34 weeks pregnant and looking forward to those first weeks of bonding and getting into a routine and just the newness of a new child. She (the coworker) tells me that hopefully nothing is wrong with my baby. I assure her that I have no reason to believe anything would be wrong. I have had an ideal pregnancy and my doctor, nor I, have zero reason to anticipate an unhealthy child. My pregnancy with my first child (this is my second) was perfect, as well. And DD1 was a perfectly healthy baby and is a healthy, intellegent child. The coworker then replies, "Well, don't get your hopes up." Seriously?!? I turned to her and said "Really? What do you mean by that?" She tells me that she had a perfect pregnancy too, but people warned her that health issues may come once her baby was born. So, because she let people talk to her that way gave her the right to talk to me that way?
I basically told her first of all, what kind of person says that to a woman who is weeks away from having a child? And two, are you indicating that you hope something goes wrong? I honestly don't know if it was a bad play on words that she used or what, but I was appalled and deeply offended...pissed even! DH says that I need to stand up to her more because she is always saying small, insulting comments to me. But this one...it just takes the cake. As a mother, there is a worry that is always present when it comes to your child, and I do worry and hope everything is okay. But to
say "don't get your hopes up"...in regards to a normal delivery and healthy baby? It just felt like she was hoping something goes wrong. From woman to woman, mother to mother, people should use that time to encourage and reassure...not put any inkling of doubt or worry...more of than what is already there.
So...in that context, how would you have taken it? Rude, or are my hormones just on edge?