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We haven't even gotten our income tax return and my in laws are already trying to get some

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Everytime me and DH come into any money, my inlaws start asking for it. We have 3 kids and we are getting about $9500 back. We haven't talked to them about it or anything but they know that we will get quite a bit back and so MIL has been prying about when we will file and exactly how much we will get back. We have filed and do know the amount but we keep everything vague. She has started dropping hints about how they need financial help. Last year, we gave them $500, this year, I told my DH we are not giving him a single dime, this is for our family not for them. They try to make him feel guilty when he doesn't help them. Their problem is that they didn't plan for the future, they assumed they would be living with one of their children (SIL is still a 2and year resident, BIL is military and moves around too much for them and they are not going to move in with us). Does anyone else have mooching in laws like this? 

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:09 PM
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littlesippycup
by Ruby Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:50 PM

Just give them $200.

vwd_johnson
by Ruby Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:53 PM
I wouldn't give them anything. Theyre not entitled to that money.
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Grumpylilpixy
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:54 PM

Yes but they are not that persistent. That would def drive me crazy.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:54 PM
We don't give our in laws anything except whatever we buy for our nieces and nephews. Mil gets nothing ever. She did nothing for her kids but keep her fs and cash assistance current. As soon as they were old enough to get summer jobs (14 in my state), she was charging them rent (even though welfare paid her rent) and making them buy their own food even though she receive fs for them and made them buy their own school supplies even though welfare gave her cash assistance for that too. She is terrible mother and grandmother.

We help my mom because she is always always there for us and we love her for it, but my mom never asks for anything.
1likeme
by Gold Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:55 PM
I would stop telling her anything about finances and if she asked I would let her know it was none of her damn business.
bfountain
by Bronze Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:56 PM

i wouldn't give my in laws air if they needed it let alone money

Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 12:00 AM
Omg YES! My MIL has been doing the exact same thing to us for 12 years! We both decided a couple of years ago that we were not going to give them any more money PERIOD! MIL has done this to all of her kids! My SIL and my BIL have loaned or given her thousands if dollars. She has a gambling problem that she hides from FIL. She goes to the casino in the middle of the night. Blows all her money and then begs from her adult children. It's sad! She even talked BIL into allowing her to hold onto money he had saved to get his son circumcised, then she spent it. We have 4 kids and are barely making ends meet and inlaws make a lot more money, but are always broke.

Quoting Anonymous:

Everytime me and DH come into any money, my inlaws start asking for it. We have 3 kids and we are getting about $9500 back. We haven't talked to them about it or anything but they know that we will get quite a bit back and so MIL has been prying about when we will file and exactly how much we will get back. We have filed and do know the amount but we keep everything vague. She has started dropping hints about how they need financial help. Last year, we gave them $500, this year, I told my DH we are not giving him a single dime, this is for our family not for them. They try to make him feel guilty when he doesn't help them. Their problem is that they didn't plan for the future, they assumed they would be living with one of their children (SIL is still a 2and year resident, BIL is military and moves around too much for them and they are not going to move in with us). Does anyone else have mooching in laws like this? 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 12:00 AM
I am still waiting on two things before i can file and my mom is already trying to get me to use my refund to pay her property taxes. It is $2500.
bmw29
by spitfire_bobbie on Jan. 29, 2013 at 12:02 AM
Same here.

Quoting Anonymous:

No. My inlaws are very kind and help us when we need it. I would happily help them if they were in need.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 12:02 AM

I was in a car accident.  My mother yelled at me at the hospital saying how it must be my fault and how I better get my act together because she wasn't carting me around.  Then she found out that I was going to get a very large settlement because alas it was not my fault (and it was on a security camera)  She was up my ass buying me groceries, offering to take me to the doctor and making plans for what she was going to do with her share of my settlement.  I sent her on vacation, took my kids to Europe and invested the rest.  Haven't talked to her in years.

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