should i just let it go? semi-long...*eta*2n edit- talked to principal
I have 3 kids with my xh. He gets every tues & thurs visitation, plus every other weekend.
This is about our oldest son, 'V'.
He goes to public school. They get a packet of homework each monday, that is due each friday. In the school there are 2 teachers who like to check the students' hw every day. V got one of those teachers.
Xh works full time, night shift, and goes to school full time earning a bachelors degree. On his visitation days, sometimes he has hw of his own to do. Things get frazzled when he is in the process of watching 3kids, doing his hw, and getting ready for work each evening. The school aged kids do hw at my house because of this:
The few times they've done it at his house, it manages to come home not corrected, or not come home at all. It gets left in his car, or lost somewhere in his house. We both agreed that I am just better suited, as a SAHM to have their hw be my responsibility.
Vs teacher made an agreement with me at the beginning of the year, that as long as V is taking notes, and not disrupting class, that he would be exempt from bringing his hw to be checked each day, as long as I corrected it all by friday.
V has held up to his end of the bargain. His conduct grade is an A-, (report card came home yesterday) and he gets straigh As except in reading comp, which is a B+.
All of a sudden, after a few months, the teacher started getting snarky, AND ADMITTED TO IT BTW. "Okay class, get out your work, except for V, he doesnt have to follow rules." Ive spoken to the teacher, who admitted it and said she simply decided it wasnt fair to the class. The principal basically ignored my concerns.
Teacher sent home a note today, stating that V is being unfair to the class, and will need to bring his hw each day to be corrected.
If this happens, he will fail every day after his dad's visitation.
I want him out of her class, his dad & my s/o agree with me.
But am I overreacting? Should I just let it go?
I do not feel that my request is unreasonable, and I do not feel she has a right to call him out in front of the class like she admitted she does.
What do you think?
V is in 4th grade
School policy says hw is due friday
Hw isnt my real issue, its her treatment of V
If she wanted to work something else out, she should have contacted me, not called V out in front of the class off and on for 2.5 months
Talked to the principal face to face this morning
Aparently the teacher is is violation of DISTRICT POLICY.
They have a policy in place, that states that accomidations will be made for families with a court order for visitation. The rules are that they HAVE to work with the custodial parent if the parent has legal & physical custody, which I do. The school policy is also that if the teachers class rules interfere with school/district policy, and a conflict arises, the teacher is to adhere to school/district policy.
So I was well within my rights to ask for the accomidation to begin with.
The principal moved V to another class, AND filed a formal complaint with the district without me asking her to. I even told her as long as he was in a different class, then there was no need for complaint. But the principal felt that the teacher's breaking of policy & treatment of V warranted a complaint.
So its handled now, and I'm glad for it.