I wish people wouldn't bash couples that don't earn enough money at their jobs or have debt or have children and still need public assistance. There's more to it than meets the eye. I have a co worker, he's 29 yrs old and has 2 kids age 2 and 4 and another on the way. Him and his wife own only one car, he doesn't have a license. Why? I never asked. She picks him up from work whenever she can but if not he either gets a ride home from a co worker who is a friend of his, or walks home. The day the tempertaure was 16 degrees, he walked home. He doesn't live far, only walks a mile and along the highway. You have people, brave and have good enough hearts that don't let debt or other financial issues stop them from being with the person they love and committing to them. Why should a person wait 7-10 years til they have a clean credit in order to get married and live the real American way of accomplishing your goals, whether it's graduating from college and getting a high paying job (which is scarce these days at least in my town since some say college is a scam) or after earning enough raises at your job to provide for a husband/wife/children? No! If we have debt or one has it we can take care of that and get rid of it together and still have a loving marriage and provide for our children. And if we need public assistance on the side for help if we have family members who don't give a shit about our problems, then that's what we have to do.
I married my dh knowing he has poor credit and thanks to his ex wife. I married him knowing he had to pay alimony and child support(which lasted 2 years the child was close to 18) and we have a baby of our own. Why wait? Life is too short. We can make the best of what we have. He has a poor credit because his vehicle was repossessed because of the support payments taking a big chunk out of his paycheck it was either loose the vehicle or loose the apartment. His ex wife refused to sign off her name from the vehicle so he could trade it in or sell it back to the bank, plus he was court ordered to not do neither, so he had not choice but to call up the bank and say 'come pick it up.' He now drives a beater that he bought from our neighbor but it gets you from point A to point B which is all that matters. There's no buses to his job it;s an 1.45 minutes away and cabs, forget it. Having no loans are great. I have debt from medical bills and bill me later as does he and a couple credit cards (those were marital debt but he was court ordered to take care of those). I make $20,000 a year dh makes $9600. But we will be spending our whole tax refund on paying off those bills.