Why is that such a popular thing to say on here... A mom is complaining she wont have enough money for xyz bills if ex doesnt pay child support that month/week etc...
and ALWAYS, ALWAYS someone is on here screaming at her
"CHILD SUPPORT ISNT FOR THAT, IT'S FOR YOUR KID"
I have to laugh at how incredibly short sighted these women are.
Say she has 100 bucks for this pay period, after paying rent and other major bills , and child support is 50 a week (using little numbers for simplicity, although I am aware that it is reality for many women.)
She needs to buy food, prescriptions, diapers, etc... whatever for her kids. Either way, her kids are going to take up the majority of her money for the week plus all the CHILD SUPPORT that *IS* for the kids needs, and she can only budget so much for the small but important bills like say, her cell phone or gas, whatever.
So, Child support falls through. What is she supposed to put to the side? Her kids' needs or the other stuff? Obviously she needs to get her kids what they need, and that eats up all her money. And that leaves no money left over for the small but important things like gas. Because that money that ex should be paying, never made it to her.
So when a woman says, I didnt get child support, now I dont have any money for XYZ... most likely, it's because she had to cover his share on top of hers.
now, the rest of the statements, "budget better" or " you shouldn't depend on childsupport, always have back up in case it doesn't come" are more practical and while not necessarily an attainable reality for the woman complaining, are at least a little better thought out...
If Im not replying, its because I have to leave for work.