Parents should NOT support this! What is wrong with people?! *EDIT*
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Thanks to everyone who replied and the ones that agreed with me! :) As a parent I will ALWAYS guide my kids to do what is morally right growing up. If they grow up and turn out to be gay or whatever I will still love them!
I agree, they are still learning and trying to figure things out. Which is exactly why I wouldn't take it seriously. It may even be something that young kids hear from older classmates etc and pick it up because they think it is cool or whatever. I am not saying I would say something nasty or start trying to exorcise the demon or whatever, LOL. I am just saying, don't take it as set in stone at this point.
Quoting shannonw79:
They are learning who they are. I'm not in favor of giving ten year old sex changes but if my dd tells me she wants to marry a girl who am I to tell her she doesn't?
See, to me everything isn't about sex. As young girls many of us have a picture of our fairy tale life. Husband, homes, weddings, whatever. If my dd sees a female in the spouse position that's her fairy tale. It may change and it may not. I won't stunt their personal growth by telling them something is wrong with them. I've taught them the opposite actually.
If my dd told me she felt like she should have been a boy I still wouldn't tell her she was wrong. I wouldn't attempt to attach a penis but I would support her feeling because they are valid to me.
It's a matter of support in my mind. If her feeling change as she grows fine. But if they don't change my girls will be secure in the knowledge that they are loved and accepted no matter what.
Quoting harehelper:But a child that young doesn't have any idea who they are yet, that's the point. My nine year old thinks he already knows who he wants to marry and is talking about having kids with her, LOL. I don't take it seriously, because he doesn't understand how life works yet.
Quoting shannonw79:
Yeah I know right!!! Parents loving and supporting their kids for who they are, what is this world coming to!?!
I knew I was attracted to girls long before puberty struck. No amount of coercion from my parents would have changed that. Hell, I already felt like something was wrong with me because of it. If it were that simple to change how you feel there wouldn't be nearly as many homosexuals as there are.
But this whole post was about not supporting your child. That is what my original comment was addressing.
Quoting harehelper:I agree, they are still learning and trying to figure things out. Which is exactly why I wouldn't take it seriously. It may even be something that young kids hear from older classmates etc and pick it up because they think it is cool or whatever. I am not saying I would say something nasty or start trying to exorcise the demon or whatever, LOL. I am just saying, don't take it as set in stone at this point.
Quoting shannonw79:
They are learning who they are. I'm not in favor of giving ten year old sex changes but if my dd tells me she wants to marry a girl who am I to tell her she doesn't?
See, to me everything isn't about sex. As young girls many of us have a picture of our fairy tale life. Husband, homes, weddings, whatever. If my dd sees a female in the spouse position that's her fairy tale. It may change and it may not. I won't stunt their personal growth by telling them something is wrong with them. I've taught them the opposite actually.
If my dd told me she felt like she should have been a boy I still wouldn't tell her she was wrong. I wouldn't attempt to attach a penis but I would support her feeling because they are valid to me.
It's a matter of support in my mind. If her feeling change as she grows fine. But if they don't change my girls will be secure in the knowledge that they are loved and accepted no matter what.
Quoting harehelper:But a child that young doesn't have any idea who they are yet, that's the point. My nine year old thinks he already knows who he wants to marry and is talking about having kids with her, LOL. I don't take it seriously, because he doesn't understand how life works yet.
Quoting shannonw79:
Yeah I know right!!! Parents loving and supporting their kids for who they are, what is this world coming to!?!
talk to a gay or transgendered adult...all knew at a very young age.
I agree with you, now I wouldn't through them under the bus but I sure as hell wouldn't say "Hey, your right" I don't think any person knows they are gey or transgerder when they are under say 17. They don't even know what sex is and they don't even know what a Male or Female role is. It's so totally not about what toys or what clothes you wear. All little boys like to play dress up in mommies clothes and all little girls will want to shave or wear mommies shoes. Who the child is friends with or not friends with has nothing to do with it. I think all the things they point out is not even relevent. My son would wear girls clothes in the closet at 10 means nothing. The parents who say "I wouldn't let him wear girls dress up clothes was a bad mom" I even at 10 wouldn't stop my son from playing in girls dress up clothes at home if he wants. I don't think any parents should allow their children to go in public after 5 in the opposit genders clothes you are confusing them as to what their role is. They can't want to be the opposite genders role until they truely know what their role is.. That doesn't happen MUCH later in life, sometimes until after they move out...
That's the ugliest name everrrr!!!