Dh and I have been together for 4 years and married for 2. He is extremely frugal and it literally pains him to spend any money at all whereas I am not so frugal and like to splurge on Starbucks, pedicures, cute things for the baby, etc.. We both work and make about equal salaries.
For our entire relationship I have been deemed responsible for the finances. I am okay with this (though not really) because I am organized and just overall better at getting the bills paid on time, as dh simply doesn't "like" phones or computers or snail mail so in general it's just easier and less stressful for me to do it.
A huge problem always comes to play because of this. Around the end of the month Dh will ask how much money is left and I will say "x amount" and he will get pissed/depressed and say things like "Oh....I had really hoped to go golfing tomorrow but now I don't feel comfortable because we don't have any money." Which is bullshit because we absolutely CAN afford a round of golf. I told him to go play and he said no and started bitching about how he never has any clue where all his money goes and how he has nothing to show for his hard work. I said as nicely as I could after having this conversation approximately two million times that I would REALLY appreciate it if he took more responsibility for the finances and in the least log on to our bank account once in awhile to check the status.
His response? "I don't know the password and its easier just to ask you." He does know the password and how to log on though. If he would just look at the freaking account he would know and I wouldn't have to deal with the drama every month.
I would LOVE it if he did the grocery shopping and bill paying so he could actually SEE where it all goes but he acts like such a big baby when it comes to that sort of stuff.
I mean seriously what the hell, man up and take some responsibility for yourself!!
on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:29 PM