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Custody loss due to instability?

Anonymous
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Question: How many times in a year do you think a person has to move to be considered not providing a stable living condition?

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1 time

2 times

3 times

4 times

5 times

6 times

7 times

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I have a friend living with my family.  She recently got evicted from her apartment and is staying with us with her daughter.  She is afraid that her ex will find out she is "couch surfing" and go for custody.  She and her daughter are using our guest bedroom.  She is waiting for her tax refund to try and find another apartment.  

The other thing is this in not her first time having to leave a house this year.  She wants to know if her ex would have a case?


Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:39 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:52 PM

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jenmomx3
by Silver Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:53 PM

 I would think so...if the child doesn't have a stable roof over her head that is definitely an issue......

atyou
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:55 PM
I didn't vote because I really have no idea.

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1likeme
by Gold Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:55 PM
That would be a case by case thing but yeah he could file a motion and argue that his home would be in the child's best interest. Is there a reason that your friend feels it's better to couch surf with her instead of living with the father?
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:55 PM
I didn't vote because I think there is a time frame for moving too much. Example: if you move 2x in 3 months I would say that's unstable, or 6x in 4 months (like my ex).
mom_dl6
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:56 PM

No idea ,i do hope she can get on her feet soon and stay there for her and her child .

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:58 PM

That's why  the question is for a 1 year period, though 6x in 4 months is crazy!

Quoting Anonymous:

I didn't vote because I think there is a time frame for moving too much. Example: if you move 2x in 3 months I would say that's unstable, or 6x in 4 months (like my ex).


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:59 PM
If she is working tell her to look.into low income housing asap
Mom2jngnc
by Silver Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:59 PM

no vote. 

how long was she at the last address? Can she otherwise meet her child's needs? how much is the father involved? 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 29, 2013 at 5:01 PM

He's a military vet and has PTSD.  She feels his PTSD means he cannot care for her DD. She served him with custody papers and child support as soon as he got back in state.  He is going through therapy with a specialist for the court. As soon as he get's the Okay he will go for unsupervised visits. 

Quoting 1likeme:

That would be a case by case thing but yeah he could file a motion and argue that his home would be in the child's best interest. Is there a reason that your friend feels it's better to couch surf with her instead of living with the father?


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