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I couldn't be a parent to an autistic child.

Anonymous
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I'm pregnant and I have been having fear of this lately. I have two perfect and healthy babies but the thought of having a "special child" scares me. I can also admit I am not strong enough to parent a child with needs, and if it turns out that I end up having an autistic child I will choose to put him or her up for adoption. How soon could I find out if the baby is special needs?
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:00 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:01 PM
I couldn't either. I get flustered and stressed way too easily.
lilfishbigocean
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:01 PM
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 Are you serious?

Idk about others, but to me - having an autistic child has made me a much more patient, caring person. I wouldn't change it for the world. She is who she is, and I love that about her.

Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:03 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:03 PM
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seriously hoping you are a troll!

Frankly you shouldnt be having children at all!

Litlmama87
by Platinum Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:03 PM
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It's not the ideal situation I would want.





You won't know from birth that the child is autistic, OP. Many children aren't diagnosed for years, school age.
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Roxyysf
by Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:03 PM

I would love my child either way.

But i got the test done anyway just incase so i could prepair my self and my boyfriend. I got mine done at 17 weeks.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:04 PM



Quoting Anonymous:

I'm pregnant and I have been having fear of this lately. I have two perfect and healthy babies but the thought of having a "special child" scares me. I can also admit I am not strong enough to parent a child with needs, and if it turns out that I end up having an autistic child I will choose to put him or her up for adoption. How soon could I find out if the baby is special needs?


So what you're saying is that after having the kid in your house for a minimum of two years, if they had autism, you would send them away?

Two is about the time most parents begin realizing something is wrong.
Question: If anything were to happen to your "perfect" babies, a fall or car accident for example-

Would you be one of those moms that abandons them in hospital?

Moki75
by Bronze Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:04 PM

uhmmmm

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:05 PM

Same here! I am less judgemental of others as well

They are tough but man are they worth it! 



Quoting lilfishbigocean:

 Are you serious?

Idk about others, but to me - having an autistic child has made me a much more patient, caring person. I wouldn't change it for the world. She is who she is, and I love that about her.


Melissa_4
by Ruby Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:05 PM
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You wouldn't know for sure if there's a problem with the child until they're about 2.  There would be some subtle clues in a mild case between 6 and 18 months, but until they're 2, you won't know for sure.

Should have stopped at 2 kids and not pressed your luck.  Thank God the two you have are healthy and alive.

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