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I'm black, my DH is black, and our children are black

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Yea, it sounds just as pointless and stupid when you mothers of bi-racial/multi-racial children do it.

Why the hell do parents of mixed kids feel the need to constantly display their children as if they are in possession of some rare life form? Who the hell cares that you have mixed kids?! Why must we play "guess which race my kid is" games with you?! Why must the first words that come out your mouth when someone compliments your kid be "thanks, she's mixed with..."

When someone compliments my child, I don't respond with "thanks! She's black! "

We get it, you have mixed children... No one cares.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 29, 2013 at 9:54 PM
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mrspeterrabbit
by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 6:29 PM

No Way, its exaxctly the same in my family, Lol (referring to the title only)

gigis1
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 6:30 PM

it's like saying "here's the recipe for having a gorgeous baby" pffft... NOT !!! i've seen some funky looking mixed babies in my life :/

Anonymous
by Anonymous 62 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 8:30 PM

 I'm not at all telling you what you personally deal with.  My comment was "I find", i.e., my personal experience.  I too live it.  I just don't happen to find biracial people as a whole to have particularly striking features, especially if one of the parents is black.  Most either look black or they look white.


Quoting Anonymous:

The funny thing is, black people do ask the questions for us. I deal with it on a daily basis so please don't tell me what I personally deal with. Yes, I view other people no matter the race as normal, but reality most mixed, biracial whatever you want to label them don't look like others and they have more striking features. 

If you look at a black person, then look at a mixed person(coloring aside) you can see a big difference. Same goes for looking at a mixed person next to a white or any other race, they don't have the same features. 

I'm snickering because I live it. I know who asks the questions for us, and that's because my family is like a skittles bag you never know what "Color" you're going to pull out. 



Quoting Anonymous:

Funny, I find that it is white people who tend to bring up the question of race and coloring.  Black people tend to know that we come in an extremely wide color range.  What you see as "striking and exotic", we see as normal.

 

Quoting Anonymous:

Most biracial people are more striking and exotic therefore adding to the unusual aspect. Same thing goes for black people and any other race.

I find that black people are the main ones to bring up a mixed child's coloring. At least that's been my experience with the people who ask about my daughter or my nieces.

I haven't met anyone who does as the op is complaining unless prompted.

Quoting Anonymous:

 No.  Most biracial children do NOT have what you refer to as "unusual features."


My dh and I are both black.  Both of our daughters are asked often whether they have a white parent although there is nothing "unusual" about how either one of them looks.  I find it sad that the question comes up at all because I don't see why it should matter.


 


Quoting TeamTARDIS:

No. They have unusual features.
A child with black textured hair that is blond, darker skin and blue eyes is unexpected and not the norm. People will typically ask if they are bi racial.



Quoting Anonymous:

No they don't. They stand out because they are diff colors than their parents or siblings or you. So you stare and wonder.





Quoting TeamTARDIS:

Maybe because people wonder what nationality the kids are.


Why would that bother you so much?


Mixed children tend to have striking or unusual features.



 


 

 

 



 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 84 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 8:32 PM
All I say is thank you. Then other person usually asks if my daughter is bi-racial. Other than that....IDC.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 52 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:43 AM
Not all mixed kids are of those two races. Some are truly mixed with it all. That's what I deal with everyday, especially when people see my daughter.

Quoting Anonymous:

 I'm not at all telling you what you personally deal with.  My comment was "I find", i.e., my personal experience.  I too live it.  I just don't happen to find biracial people as a whole to have particularly striking features, especially if one of the parents is black.  Most either look black or they look white.




Quoting Anonymous:


The funny thing is, black people do ask the questions for us. I deal with it on a daily basis so please don't tell me what I personally deal with. Yes, I view other people no matter the race as normal, but reality most mixed, biracial whatever you want to label them don't look like others and they have more striking features. 


If you look at a black person, then look at a mixed person(coloring aside) you can see a big difference. Same goes for looking at a mixed person next to a white or any other race, they don't have the same features. 


I'm snickering because I live it. I know who asks the questions for us, and that's because my family is like a skittles bag you never know what "Color" you're going to pull out. 






Quoting Anonymous:


Funny, I find that it is white people who tend to bring up the question of race and coloring.  Black people tend to know that we come in an extremely wide color range.  What you see as "striking and exotic", we see as normal.


 


Quoting Anonymous:

Most biracial people are more striking and exotic therefore adding to the unusual aspect. Same thing goes for black people and any other race.

I find that black people are the main ones to bring up a mixed child's coloring. At least that's been my experience with the people who ask about my daughter or my nieces.

I haven't met anyone who does as the op is complaining unless prompted.


Quoting Anonymous:


 No.  Most biracial children do NOT have what you refer to as "unusual features."



My dh and I are both black.  Both of our daughters are asked often whether they have a white parent although there is nothing "unusual" about how either one of them looks.  I find it sad that the question comes up at all because I don't see why it should matter.



 



Quoting TeamTARDIS:

No. They have unusual features.
A child with black textured hair that is blond, darker skin and blue eyes is unexpected and not the norm. People will typically ask if they are bi racial.




Quoting Anonymous:

No they don't. They stand out because they are diff colors than their parents or siblings or you. So you stare and wonder.






Quoting TeamTARDIS:

Maybe because people wonder what nationality the kids are.


Why would that bother you so much?


Mixed children tend to have striking or unusual features.




 



 


 


 






 

kaiser10123
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:30 AM
Its not every parent who have mixed children. I get this bullshit everytime I'm with my children and this stuff is nonsense. I say thank you and leave it at that BUT when majority say to me oh well you're children are so much lighter than you are their father another race WTF am I suppose to say? I don't say why thank you they're mixed like its a fucking badge of honor my boys are beautiful regardless of what their race is. All babies are beautiful whether they are red, green, blue, or yellow.
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