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Affairs? *update!*

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

Ever had one? For how long did it last? Would you do it again or not and why or why not?!

 

 

I had a one night stand who keeps texting me, I told dh already about then night and he's willing to move past this but idk what to do w/ the guy texting me......I don't want to tell dh becuase he'll go nuts on this poor guy who is turning out to be really nice but I just dont know =/ I already know I'm awful but now I need advice!

 

 

*UPDATE*

I saw the other guy again, we have a lot in common but I have no  romantic feelings for him. We could be really good friends but I cant see myself being with him fully. I felt bad going to "see" the other guy then coming home to dh, but I just showered and went to bed. I don't feel guilty at all today I'm sure that's not normal but dh and I are still going to work things out. Idk if I'll see him again but if he asks I'll probably say yes.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 29, 2013 at 10:08 PM
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Momniscient
by Ruby Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:19 PM
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No.
I would divorce before I had an affair.
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LoveMyLos
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:20 PM
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tell the guy to stop, if he doesn't, call cops for harassment

Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:20 PM
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Block his number
Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:21 PM

if you dont want to be with your DH, let him go. tell him that you dotn want to be with him anymore and go through with it. once thats done, maybe try to reconnect with the affair guy.

being in a relationship b/c of guilt will cause you resentment and more issues

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:22 PM

 Yes. When the other man's wife found out she told my DH. He was hurt which was my goal at first, but he couldn't say much considering I never would have contacted OM if he hadn't gotten back in touch with OM's wife.


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Just an emotional affair with the husband of the slut my dh had an affair with. That was a big mess I wish I could erase.

 

 emotional affair as in what?

Lots of texts, phone calls, emails, web chats etc. Lots of talk of leaving our spouses for each other. I know that had we been in the same state at the time it would have gone much further :-(

 

did your dh ever find out?

 


 

kirita323
by Gold Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:25 PM
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Can't have your cake and eat it too.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:25 PM
I've had an affair, it lasted a year. We separated and fought a nasty custody battle. The other man hit me one day. I walked away and went immediately to Dh and started patching things up.

It's been a year since then. Dh and I are happy and working hard at our marriage still, but its that determination and commitment that has turned our relationship into something amazing.
copperked
by Silver Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:29 PM
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You nip it in the bud, tell him to stop texting you, and block his number. He's not THAT nice if he doesn't respect your marriage. If your husband is willing to move past it, you need to move past it too and not have any contact with this person, or else you will probably lose your husband.

markswife03
by Silver Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:33 PM
How do you have the time to find a guy to have a one night stand with? I have 3 kids and don't know how I'd go about doing that, lol.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:38 PM

I have a guy I have sex with. we don't have a  relationship, just sex when we can both get away. No chance in he'll I'd tell my husband. he would flip. and it would destroy him. I love him, I want to live my life with him,, but the sex is stale. I am a better wife when I'm getting some on the side. in other words, my dh can't meet my physical needs so I get it somewhere else.

as far as the one night stand goes you should probably tell him to stop texting you or block his number. of course he's "a nice guy", he wants sex with you. they only turn into jerks when they don't have anything to get from you.

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