Doesnt really matter to me who takes us seriously. I never really wanted to be married -- I wasnt that little girl wearing a pretend wedding dress and dreaming of the perfect wedding. I met the love of my life and thought I would do the whole wedding thing just to please my parents. But then my father died a year after we met and it seemed pointless. I don't think we are any less or more awesome than any married couple. If it's important to someone to have a legal marriage, that's cool. Love is love, with our without a marriage certificate.
We are coming up on 13 years together. We are committed to each other and have a much stronger bond and more loving relationship than MANY MANY married couples I know. We have committed ourselves to each other to our family, friends and God.
A piece of paper stating the legality of it, doesn't matter AT ALL to us. That's apparently your hangup - not mine.
We matter, our love matters, our happiness matters and our bond and committment matters. Much better than a piece of paper, if you ask me. I would wish the same for everyone - married or not.
Quoting 2ndtimemom605:I agree. Its unfair,but that the way the world works.
Our cycle of friends consists of 5 married couples,4 couples have been married at least 3 years,the last couple to marry,did it late last year,and you know what?they WERE taken less seriously,although they have been together longer than some married couples(us included).We knew how solid and loving they are,but we still took them less seriously.Like I said,unfair,but...
Yeah, But that's okay with me. If other folks don't take my relationship seriously, because I do. My kids do. And Bret does. We're the only ones that need to take our commitment seriously. At 35 the fucks I give about how others perceive my relationship, are minimal.
Quoting audreesmama:I don't care either way. I'm married and don't disrespect those that aren't. An unmarried, committed relationship is just as valid as mine.
I don't care either way. I'm married and don't disrespect those that aren't. An unmarried, committed relationship is just as valid as mine.
No disrespect, but unmarried couples haven't taken the final step in their relationship. Until that happens, they're boyfriend and girlfriend. There's nothing wrong with that, but it's not the same thing.
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