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Highschool denies teen mom breastfeeding accommodations

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Should this teen mom be given a place to pump and store breast milk?

FELTON, DE -- Jaielyn Belong is a sophomore at Lake Forest High School in Felton, Delaware. “She is a good student,” said her mother Betty Belong. “She's a book worm and has occasionally gotten in trouble for reading during class.”

Five weeks ago, she welcomed baby Adrian Amir Belong into her arms at over eight pounds. Baby Adrian now weighs a whopping 10 pounds thanks to his mom who is exclusively breastfeeding him with the hopes of breastfeeding him for at least one year as is the current recommendation by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Jaielyn, now a teen mom, will soon be returning to school to continue her high school career with the support of her own mother, family and a host of local moms. There’s only one catch:

"I feel the school is discriminating against my decision to breastfeed my son," she said. A sentiment which is seconded by Betty who feels the school is bullying Jaielyn.

The nurse, a counselor and a school administrator recommended Jaielyn only breastfeed her son before and after school hours. This recommendation would not be changed regardless of whether or not a doctor’s note is able to be obtained. This would mean Jaielyn could not pump for or nurse her baby for over eight hours every weekday.

This recommendation goes against Delaware law which reads:

31 Del. C. § 310

Notwithstanding any provision of law to the contrary, a mother shall be entitled to breast-feed her baby in any location of a place of public accommodation, wherein the mother is otherwise permitted.

Some view going to school as the job of a teenager, which would mean the Reasonable Break Time For Nursing Mothers in the Fair Labor Standards Act would also be important to this case, see the bottom for the full text. It states:


Section 7 of the Fair Labor Standards Act of 19384 (29 U.S.C. 207) is amended by adding at the end the following:

‘‘An employer shall provide a reasonable break time for an employee to express breast milk for her nursing child for 1 year after the child’s birth each time such employee has need to express the milk; and a place, other than a bathroom, that is shielded from view and free from intrusion from coworkers and the public, which may be used by an employee to express breast milk."

Even so, “The school nurse called me on Thursday and told me they will not be able to accommodate my daughters need to pump or store milk during school hours,” said Betty. “They said the electric pump is noisy and will draw attention to my daughter. Pumping milk is time consuming. They're not even sure she'll be pumping milk when she says so.”

According to Betty, the nurse added that her refrigerator was for medicinal only and that she believes Jaielyn would need to be supervised. “Her peers may tease her,” the nurse told Betty.

Local La Leche League (LLL) leader, Heather Felker said, "It seems illogical that a place cannot be found for this teen to pump. If a teacher requested an area to pump, by law one would need to be provided. The teens mother also mentioned that there is a Bayhealth clinic on site."

Felker, who has alerted the LLL organization as well as the Delaware Breastfeeding Coalition of the situation, said Jaielyn "has shown great maturity by taking responsibility for her pregnancy and now her son. She chose breastmilk as the healthiest possible start for her son, and as a cost saving measure for her family. By not supporting these choices, the school is sending a negative message."

This negative message goes against the Lake Forest High School Student Code of Conduct which reads: "All Lake Forest students shall behave in a manner that promotes a school environment that is nurturing, orderly, safe and conducive to learning and personal/social development."

“I only want what's the very best for him and it is scientifically proven, breast milk is the best choice," Jaielyn said.

Her mom added, “My daughter’s body made this milk for him and she wants him to have what's all natural and made just for him. My daughter just wants to be able to do her academic studies and care for her son's nutritional needs.

"When our children go through life and make positive choices we have to follow through and do what we can to help,” Betty said in support of her daughter’s breastfeeding decision. “I'm so proud of the choices she's made and I have to help in any way I can. I thought I was fighting a losing battle, but knew I wasn't giving up without one."

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:40 PM
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by Emerald Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:42 PM
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I understand what their argument is...but unfortunately, a student is not the same thing as an employee.

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by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:43 PM
Why not independent study?
by Queen Bee on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:44 PM
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Regardless of age, any woman should have accommodations to be able to pump in order to feed their baby.

The school is being ridiculous. Do they want this kid to get on WIC and put more stress on the taxpayers by getting formula? Do they want to financially strain her or her parents more by having to buy it?

It makes no sense. Let the girl pump for goodness sakes! She is trying to do the right thing by breastfeeding and continuing her education and these fools  are trying to put a big road block in her plan for success.

by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:44 PM
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That is absolutely wrong.

by Valerie on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:44 PM
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They should allow her to pump and store her milk. Our employers are supposed to do it for us, so the school should do it for her. I know it isn't ideal circumstances, but she is doing the best she can.

by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:44 PM
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That's too bad... No wonder so many of them drop out.
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:45 PM

She needs to suck it up and figure something out

by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:46 PM
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Yes she should be able to. Pumping does not take that much time she could pump once in the middle of te day it would not be that much of an inconvenience for the school. I think it's ridiculous that the school is acting that way.
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by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:46 PM
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"her peers may tease her" if they are not teasing her for being a 15 year old mom, I doubt they will care about her pumping. I think she should absolutely be able to pump, 15 minutes in the clinic once or twice a day is all that would be needed. Also, if she goes 8 hours without pumping or feeding, she will end up with mastitis and will  probably miss a whole week of school

by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:46 PM
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She has every right to breastfeed her child, regardless of her age or her status as a student. I hope the school can come to a compromise.
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