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Highschool denies teen mom breastfeeding accommodations

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Should this teen mom be given a place to pump and store breast milk?



FELTON, DE -- Jaielyn Belong is a sophomore at Lake Forest High School in Felton, Delaware. “She is a good student,” said her mother Betty Belong. “She's a book worm and has occasionally gotten in trouble for reading during class.”



Five weeks ago, she welcomed baby Adrian Amir Belong into her arms at over eight pounds. Baby Adrian now weighs a whopping 10 pounds thanks to his mom who is exclusively breastfeeding him with the hopes of breastfeeding him for at least one year as is the current recommendation by the American Academy of Pediatrics.



Jaielyn, now a teen mom, will soon be returning to school to continue her high school career with the support of her own mother, family and a host of local moms. There’s only one catch:



"I feel the school is discriminating against my decision to breastfeed my son," she said. A sentiment which is seconded by Betty who feels the school is bullying Jaielyn.



The nurse, a counselor and a school administrator recommended Jaielyn only breastfeed her son before and after school hours. This recommendation would not be changed regardless of whether or not a doctor’s note is able to be obtained. This would mean Jaielyn could not pump for or nurse her baby for over eight hours every weekday.



This recommendation goes against Delaware law which reads:

31 Del. C. § 310



Notwithstanding any provision of law to the contrary, a mother shall be entitled to breast-feed her baby in any location of a place of public accommodation, wherein the mother is otherwise permitted.

Some view going to school as the job of a teenager, which would mean the Reasonable Break Time For Nursing Mothers in the Fair Labor Standards Act would also be important to this case, see the bottom for the full text. It states:

SEC. 4207. REASONABLE BREAK TIME FOR NURSING MOTHERS.

Section 7 of the Fair Labor Standards Act of 19384 (29 U.S.C. 207) is amended by adding at the end the following:



‘‘An employer shall provide a reasonable break time for an employee to express breast milk for her nursing child for 1 year after the child’s birth each time such employee has need to express the milk; and a place, other than a bathroom, that is shielded from view and free from intrusion from coworkers and the public, which may be used by an employee to express breast milk."

Even so, “The school nurse called me on Thursday and told me they will not be able to accommodate my daughters need to pump or store milk during school hours,” said Betty. “They said the electric pump is noisy and will draw attention to my daughter. Pumping milk is time consuming. They're not even sure she'll be pumping milk when she says so.”



According to Betty, the nurse added that her refrigerator was for medicinal only and that she believes Jaielyn would need to be supervised. “Her peers may tease her,” the nurse told Betty.



Local La Leche League (LLL) leader, Heather Felker said, "It seems illogical that a place cannot be found for this teen to pump. If a teacher requested an area to pump, by law one would need to be provided. The teens mother also mentioned that there is a Bayhealth clinic on site."



Felker, who has alerted the LLL organization as well as the Delaware Breastfeeding Coalition of the situation, said Jaielyn "has shown great maturity by taking responsibility for her pregnancy and now her son. She chose breastmilk as the healthiest possible start for her son, and as a cost saving measure for her family. By not supporting these choices, the school is sending a negative message."



This negative message goes against the Lake Forest High School Student Code of Conduct which reads: "All Lake Forest students shall behave in a manner that promotes a school environment that is nurturing, orderly, safe and conducive to learning and personal/social development."



“I only want what's the very best for him and it is scientifically proven, breast milk is the best choice," Jaielyn said.



Her mom added, “My daughter’s body made this milk for him and she wants him to have what's all natural and made just for him. My daughter just wants to be able to do her academic studies and care for her son's nutritional needs.



"When our children go through life and make positive choices we have to follow through and do what we can to help,” Betty said in support of her daughter’s breastfeeding decision. “I'm so proud of the choices she's made and I have to help in any way I can. I thought I was fighting a losing battle, but knew I wasn't giving up without one."



Source:

http://www.mommatraumablog.com/1/post/2013/01/delaware-teen-mom-denied-breastfeeding-accommodations.html
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:40 PM
Replies (481-490):
MDWife12
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:18 AM

Where did I say that?! I'm saying if she is a nursing mother than she needs to have time to pump if she is away from baby. It doesn't get any more simple than that. Obviously she will be away from baby, it says that they told her to feed BEFORE and AFTER school hours...um no you still need to pump DURING the hours you are gone....

Quoting Anonymous:


So you believe it's better to pump than to actually breast feed.... is that it?   The school offered her the ability to bring her baby to a school with her that is setup for infants and even has people there to help teach you to be a mother.  She refused because she wanted to chill with her friends - at least that was HER quote.


So to you, pumping is more important?

Quoting MDWife12:

I don't care if she is a student or staff, if she is a NURSING mother she needs time and a place to pump. This shouldn't even be an argument.




calvinsmommy18
by Gold Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:22 AM
I don't agree with the school but I do see an issue. If she gets breaks every hour or every 2 hours from class to pump. Then why shouldn't other students have those same breaks to do what they want.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 18 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:26 AM


No - they told her to go to a school they have spent alot of taxpayer money on that allows teen mothers to BRING their babies with them.  She can do that or she can't pump at the other school because she's CHOOSING not to breast feed all day when the school system is trying to help her care for her baby.


Her response was that she wants to "chill" with her old friends at the regular school and she doesn't want her baby with her all day.  She's not some poor mother trying to do the right thing.  She's a bratty teenager that wants what she wants and is unwilling to care for her own child.

Quoting MDWife12:

Where did I say that?! I'm saying if she is a nursing mother than she needs to have time to pump if she is away from baby. It doesn't get any more simple than that. Obviously she will be away from baby, it says that they told her to feed BEFORE and AFTER school hours...um no you still need to pump DURING the hours you are gone....

Quoting Anonymous:


So you believe it's better to pump than to actually breast feed.... is that it?   The school offered her the ability to bring her baby to a school with her that is setup for infants and even has people there to help teach you to be a mother.  She refused because she wanted to chill with her friends - at least that was HER quote.


So to you, pumping is more important?

Quoting MDWife12:

I don't care if she is a student or staff, if she is a NURSING mother she needs time and a place to pump. This shouldn't even be an argument.






Anonymous
by Anonymous 85 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:33 AM
Even if they do accomadate her ridiculous request to pump whenever she fekt like it, where is she to store the milk? Is she also entitled to her very own special fridge? Breastmilk is a biohazard, is she to stick it in with staff lunches? Assuming they even have a fridge or teachers lounge, lol. What about a male teacher or student walking in on her? Why not the alt school? Online high school? Pseo? Ged? This girl is throwing a temper tantrum.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 86 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:43 AM

 

Students serve a purpose they go to school to be future employees, I see no reason why they could not give her a study period and allow her to pump in the nurses office or some other office at the school.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

Workers are valuable, they serve a purpose and provide a service.  Students don't do that! 

Quoting Anonymous:

Work is for working should those moms also be denied pumping rights?


Quoting Dzyre1115:

 High school is for learning, not for parenting.  There is no medical need, so it's just too bad, quit school until you're done breastfeeding!


 


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 87 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:45 AM

http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/resources/pdf/TBR_1940-2006.pdf The numbers may surprise you!


Quoting carterscutie85:

I don't know, but my guess would be that is was largely under reported because of the stigma attached to it. So any rate you throw at me, would more than likely be inaccurate.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

 What was the teen pregnancy rate then?

Quoting carterscutie85:



Vipergirl22
by Gold Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 1:16 AM

This is where I think alternative high schools could come in handy in every town. I knew a girl in my english class who got pregnant in high school and she went as long as she could to our school and then I guess after the baby she either dropped out or went to the alternative high school for teen moms if they choose or for students who need a little more help to graduate.  

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Kaya529
by Platinum Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 1:21 AM
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I think it is funny that the ones that scream the loudest about people on welfare want to put this poor girl on the path to welfare.


For her and the child to do well she needs her education and she needs to breastfeed. They should not be able to discriminate anymore than a job is allowed to.

EachNewBreath
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 1:30 AM


Why shouldnt a teen mother be able to go to regular school? Being a mother, no matter your circumstances, is hard work. Why not be proud? I dont think that she is going back to school to "brag" about her motherhood though.

I am really curious why you wouldnt want your child around a young mother? Is it because you dont want them to get ideas of their own? Wouldnt her stories of hardship be a cautionary tale? 

Quoting Anonymous:

She should have to get her GED. I don't think pregnant students or teen moms should be allowed at the regular Highschool. Being a teen mom is nothing to be proud of and I don't want that around my child.



Kaya529
by Platinum Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 1:32 AM

Even if that is the reason she gave these schools are inferior. She would not be getting as good an education and how can you concentrate on school if you keep having to stop and take care of the baby. Her best chance is to do what she is what she is trying to do.

Quoting Anonymous:


How is that the healthiest when the school system provided her with a school to go to WITH her baby and she says No because she wants to "chill" with her friends?   She'd rather pump and bottle feed so it doesn't disturb her "chilling".   Bringing her baby to the other school that is all setup for that would disrupt her social life.

Quoting jeda1429:

This is wrong.....period. Why would you encourage a mom not to do the healthiest thing for her baby? It's about what's best for the baby. And if this teen mom cares abut what is best for her baby then the school should too.




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