Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Mom Confessions Mom Confessions

Highschool denies teen mom breastfeeding accommodations

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Should this teen mom be given a place to pump and store breast milk?



FELTON, DE -- Jaielyn Belong is a sophomore at Lake Forest High School in Felton, Delaware. “She is a good student,” said her mother Betty Belong. “She's a book worm and has occasionally gotten in trouble for reading during class.”



Five weeks ago, she welcomed baby Adrian Amir Belong into her arms at over eight pounds. Baby Adrian now weighs a whopping 10 pounds thanks to his mom who is exclusively breastfeeding him with the hopes of breastfeeding him for at least one year as is the current recommendation by the American Academy of Pediatrics.



Jaielyn, now a teen mom, will soon be returning to school to continue her high school career with the support of her own mother, family and a host of local moms. There’s only one catch:



"I feel the school is discriminating against my decision to breastfeed my son," she said. A sentiment which is seconded by Betty who feels the school is bullying Jaielyn.



The nurse, a counselor and a school administrator recommended Jaielyn only breastfeed her son before and after school hours. This recommendation would not be changed regardless of whether or not a doctor’s note is able to be obtained. This would mean Jaielyn could not pump for or nurse her baby for over eight hours every weekday.



This recommendation goes against Delaware law which reads:

31 Del. C. § 310



Notwithstanding any provision of law to the contrary, a mother shall be entitled to breast-feed her baby in any location of a place of public accommodation, wherein the mother is otherwise permitted.

Some view going to school as the job of a teenager, which would mean the Reasonable Break Time For Nursing Mothers in the Fair Labor Standards Act would also be important to this case, see the bottom for the full text. It states:

SEC. 4207. REASONABLE BREAK TIME FOR NURSING MOTHERS.

Section 7 of the Fair Labor Standards Act of 19384 (29 U.S.C. 207) is amended by adding at the end the following:



‘‘An employer shall provide a reasonable break time for an employee to express breast milk for her nursing child for 1 year after the child’s birth each time such employee has need to express the milk; and a place, other than a bathroom, that is shielded from view and free from intrusion from coworkers and the public, which may be used by an employee to express breast milk."

Even so, “The school nurse called me on Thursday and told me they will not be able to accommodate my daughters need to pump or store milk during school hours,” said Betty. “They said the electric pump is noisy and will draw attention to my daughter. Pumping milk is time consuming. They're not even sure she'll be pumping milk when she says so.”



According to Betty, the nurse added that her refrigerator was for medicinal only and that she believes Jaielyn would need to be supervised. “Her peers may tease her,” the nurse told Betty.



Local La Leche League (LLL) leader, Heather Felker said, "It seems illogical that a place cannot be found for this teen to pump. If a teacher requested an area to pump, by law one would need to be provided. The teens mother also mentioned that there is a Bayhealth clinic on site."



Felker, who has alerted the LLL organization as well as the Delaware Breastfeeding Coalition of the situation, said Jaielyn "has shown great maturity by taking responsibility for her pregnancy and now her son. She chose breastmilk as the healthiest possible start for her son, and as a cost saving measure for her family. By not supporting these choices, the school is sending a negative message."



This negative message goes against the Lake Forest High School Student Code of Conduct which reads: "All Lake Forest students shall behave in a manner that promotes a school environment that is nurturing, orderly, safe and conducive to learning and personal/social development."



“I only want what's the very best for him and it is scientifically proven, breast milk is the best choice," Jaielyn said.



Her mom added, “My daughter’s body made this milk for him and she wants him to have what's all natural and made just for him. My daughter just wants to be able to do her academic studies and care for her son's nutritional needs.



"When our children go through life and make positive choices we have to follow through and do what we can to help,” Betty said in support of her daughter’s breastfeeding decision. “I'm so proud of the choices she's made and I have to help in any way I can. I thought I was fighting a losing battle, but knew I wasn't giving up without one."



Source:

http://www.mommatraumablog.com/1/post/2013/01/delaware-teen-mom-denied-breastfeeding-accommodations.html
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:40 PM
Replies (31-40):
zomgkerrie
by Geek Goddess on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:57 PM

I think they should allow her 15-20 mins to pump in either the nurse or the clinic they mentioned was on site, at set intervals throughout the day so that it will be structured and not interfere as much with her schedule. If they have a set time, then they can't think she is going to "pump" whenever she wants, just to get out of class. Sounds like they are jumping to that conclusion.

badylugs80
by Bronze Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:57 PM
1 mom liked this
She should drop out and home school so she isn't providing the school with their stipend for her showing up. They should accommodate her just like the would for any employee. She's not getting paid to be there, but the school is getting paid for her being there
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
me-n-mygirls
by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:57 PM
this.
she is a student.
her choice. maybe she should think about homeschool or just getting her GED.


Quoting spooky415:

I understand what their argument is...but unfortunately, a student is not the same thing as an employee.



Posted on CafeMom Mobile
Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:57 PM
1 mom liked this
If she wants to breastfeed her child she should stay home with him...plain and simple. School is not a place to be sitting and pumping milk...it's a place for learning. Actually being in the classroom is part of that...if she is out of class she will miss pertinent information.
Dzyre1115
by Desiree` on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:57 PM

 The school is in the job of educating, which so many American schools already have difficulty doing with the necessary bureaucracy, she made a choice, a bad choice and sometimes those have consequences.

Quoting Anonymous:

You are mean. she made a mistake not saying i agree with her but at least she is trying to do whats best for her baby. The school is just being stupid. my HS provided places for our pregnant girls so i don't see why this one wont. 

Quoting Dzyre1115:

 With any luck it won't be the one too stupid to figure out birth control....

Quoting Anonymous:

Students are not these things?! Wtf... One of them will be your president someday, lol.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

Workers are valuable, they serve a purpose and provide a service.  Students don't do that! 


Quoting Anonymous:

Work is for working should those moms also be denied pumping rights?



Quoting Dzyre1115:


 High school is for learning, not for parenting.  There is no medical need, so it's just too bad, quit school until you're done breastfeeding!



 

 


 

me-n-mygirls
by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:58 PM
this.
she is a student.
her choice. maybe she should think about homeschool or just getting her GED.
it would be too much of a distraction in school.


Quoting spooky415:

I understand what their argument is...but unfortunately, a student is not the same thing as an employee.



Posted on CafeMom Mobile
Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:58 PM
6 moms liked this

Good idea!! ONE careless mistake and she should have to quit school. Get on welfare, section 8, everything out there and depend on other people to feed her baby since she has no education to get a job.

That is what is wrong with this country. People like her taking the easy way out. At least she is TRYING to continue school, TRYING to feed her baby the best way she can and not hopping on the WIC, Food stamp, section 8 train. If she finishes school she can go to college and get a good job and NOT be a burden on society. If she quits school, she cannot do any of that.

It's a good thing people like you aren't in charge. The welfare system would be even more broke than it is now.

SMH.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

 Yes she should have to quit school!  Too bad!  It's not the job of a teen mother to educate other kids, clearly she's not too bright if she got pregnant in the first place.

Quoting Liyoness:

Seriously? Quit school?
So this girl has enough hurdles to overcome as a teen parent, and we are going to encourage her to quit school so she can breastfeed?
Why? Because the other kids might learn something that is actually useful in the real world?


Quoting Dzyre1115:

 High school is for learning, not for parenting.  There is no medical need, so it's just too bad, quit school until you're done breastfeeding!


 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:58 PM
1 mom liked this
She should have to get her GED. I don't think pregnant students or teen moms should be allowed at the regular Highschool. Being a teen mom is nothing to be proud of and I don't want that around my child.
Kaybean
by Ruby Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:58 PM
3 moms liked this
I wouldn't take no for an answer if I were her. I would bring a manual pump if I had to and go down an empty hallway during lunch or something, but no one would he telling me no.
Posted on the NEW CafeMom Mobile
lovemyhoney19
by Gold Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:59 PM
Aye aye aye now tons of moms are going to find out where this school is and sit outside and nurse. I'm all for breastfeeding but this Isn't something to make a big deal about. I think it's wonderful that a teenager wants to nurse her baby but homeschooling is a great alternative especially for a teen mom in my opinion.
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)