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Highschool denies teen mom breastfeeding accommodations

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Should this teen mom be given a place to pump and store breast milk?



FELTON, DE -- Jaielyn Belong is a sophomore at Lake Forest High School in Felton, Delaware. “She is a good student,” said her mother Betty Belong. “She's a book worm and has occasionally gotten in trouble for reading during class.”



Five weeks ago, she welcomed baby Adrian Amir Belong into her arms at over eight pounds. Baby Adrian now weighs a whopping 10 pounds thanks to his mom who is exclusively breastfeeding him with the hopes of breastfeeding him for at least one year as is the current recommendation by the American Academy of Pediatrics.



Jaielyn, now a teen mom, will soon be returning to school to continue her high school career with the support of her own mother, family and a host of local moms. There’s only one catch:



"I feel the school is discriminating against my decision to breastfeed my son," she said. A sentiment which is seconded by Betty who feels the school is bullying Jaielyn.



The nurse, a counselor and a school administrator recommended Jaielyn only breastfeed her son before and after school hours. This recommendation would not be changed regardless of whether or not a doctor’s note is able to be obtained. This would mean Jaielyn could not pump for or nurse her baby for over eight hours every weekday.



This recommendation goes against Delaware law which reads:

31 Del. C. § 310



Notwithstanding any provision of law to the contrary, a mother shall be entitled to breast-feed her baby in any location of a place of public accommodation, wherein the mother is otherwise permitted.

Some view going to school as the job of a teenager, which would mean the Reasonable Break Time For Nursing Mothers in the Fair Labor Standards Act would also be important to this case, see the bottom for the full text. It states:

SEC. 4207. REASONABLE BREAK TIME FOR NURSING MOTHERS.

Section 7 of the Fair Labor Standards Act of 19384 (29 U.S.C. 207) is amended by adding at the end the following:



‘‘An employer shall provide a reasonable break time for an employee to express breast milk for her nursing child for 1 year after the child’s birth each time such employee has need to express the milk; and a place, other than a bathroom, that is shielded from view and free from intrusion from coworkers and the public, which may be used by an employee to express breast milk."

Even so, “The school nurse called me on Thursday and told me they will not be able to accommodate my daughters need to pump or store milk during school hours,” said Betty. “They said the electric pump is noisy and will draw attention to my daughter. Pumping milk is time consuming. They're not even sure she'll be pumping milk when she says so.”



According to Betty, the nurse added that her refrigerator was for medicinal only and that she believes Jaielyn would need to be supervised. “Her peers may tease her,” the nurse told Betty.



Local La Leche League (LLL) leader, Heather Felker said, "It seems illogical that a place cannot be found for this teen to pump. If a teacher requested an area to pump, by law one would need to be provided. The teens mother also mentioned that there is a Bayhealth clinic on site."



Felker, who has alerted the LLL organization as well as the Delaware Breastfeeding Coalition of the situation, said Jaielyn "has shown great maturity by taking responsibility for her pregnancy and now her son. She chose breastmilk as the healthiest possible start for her son, and as a cost saving measure for her family. By not supporting these choices, the school is sending a negative message."



This negative message goes against the Lake Forest High School Student Code of Conduct which reads: "All Lake Forest students shall behave in a manner that promotes a school environment that is nurturing, orderly, safe and conducive to learning and personal/social development."



“I only want what's the very best for him and it is scientifically proven, breast milk is the best choice," Jaielyn said.



Her mom added, “My daughter’s body made this milk for him and she wants him to have what's all natural and made just for him. My daughter just wants to be able to do her academic studies and care for her son's nutritional needs.



"When our children go through life and make positive choices we have to follow through and do what we can to help,” Betty said in support of her daughter’s breastfeeding decision. “I'm so proud of the choices she's made and I have to help in any way I can. I thought I was fighting a losing battle, but knew I wasn't giving up without one."



Source:

http://www.mommatraumablog.com/1/post/2013/01/delaware-teen-mom-denied-breastfeeding-accommodations.html
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:40 PM
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lilmami316
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:59 PM
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wow this is so wrong i think she should Be able to pump for her baby at least shes trying to do whats right  and that's  feed her child without  using  formula or being  on wic so tax  payers can piss and moan about that and shes trying to finish high school so that  her and her baby  Can have a better life 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:59 PM
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If it was me (and it wasn't, I wasn't a teen mom) I would've just toted my handy little pump with me and done it on my own time. I had a lunch break and a free period in high school. And put the milk in a cooler with an ice pack. Not everyone needed to be put on notice about it. I'm sure no one would have noticed if she had just been quiet about it.
JLS2388
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:59 PM
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So I guess you agree with those who say that those kinds of schools encourage teen pregnancy? Either way, the BABY is already here and needs to be fed.

Quoting LaceNBklyn:

Well this is what she should of thought about before she had a child.

Quoting JLS2388:

Not all counties have such a school



Quoting LaceNBklyn:

She needs to go to a school that accommodates to young mothers if this is the case. HS should not have to make special arraignments for the teen girls who have children. What will schools become??






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Dzyre1115
by Desiree` on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:59 PM

 No they don't, they may in the future, but as students they provide no service to the world and a school is not their workplace. 

Quoting Mommy2Jolee:

Well, all workers were students at some point... So essentially, students serve a purpose too!


Quoting Dzyre1115:

Workers are valuable, they serve a purpose and provide a service.  Students don't do that! 


Quoting Anonymous:

Work is for working should those moms also be denied pumping rights?



Quoting Dzyre1115:


 High school is for learning, not for parenting.  There is no medical need, so it's just too bad, quit school until you're done breastfeeding!



 


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:59 PM
I agree she should have a private place to pump and store. I'm sure there's a decent sized utility closet not in use and I'm pretty sure the employee lounge has a refridgerator.
I'm shocked no hard core BF Nazi has demanded she not have to cover up or close a door to do so lol. Its natural to pump isn't it?;)
goddess99
by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:59 PM
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The school is being ridiculous. Shame on them.

TranquilMind
by Ruby Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:59 PM
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She's a SOPHOMORE?   Yikes!

She will win this, most likely, based upon the statutory wording.  I don't know why the school cannot make this small accommodation. 

Too bad her earlier choices weren't this wise. 

armywife009
by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 4:00 PM
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Students are valuable, serve a purpose and will one day provide you service.

I don't see a problem with letting her go to another room and pump and store milk. Yes, her choices were not so smart in getting pregnant, but she has a right to feed her child and to pump when she needs.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

Workers are valuable, they serve a purpose and provide a service.  Students don't do that! 

Quoting Anonymous:

Work is for working should those moms also be denied pumping rights?


Quoting Dzyre1115:

 High school is for learning, not for parenting.  There is no medical need, so it's just too bad, quit school until you're done breastfeeding!


 


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2013 at 4:00 PM
Yes, because she planned this.

Quoting LaceNBklyn:

Well this is what she should of thought about before she had a child.



Quoting JLS2388:

Not all counties have such a school




Quoting LaceNBklyn:

She needs to go to a school that accommodates to young mothers if this is the case. HS should not have to make special arraignments for the teen girls who have children. What will schools become??





carterscutie85
by Queen Bee on Jan. 30, 2013 at 4:00 PM
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Oh, I forgot. Students don't create jobs for millions of people a year. They don't create jobs for teachers, bus drivers, board of education members, school nurses, school janitors. They don't do any of that. Without students, those jobs would still magically exist.

BTW, I am not the anon, but to say students are not valuable and don't provide a service is uneducated and silly.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

Workers are valuable, they serve a purpose and provide a service.  Students don't do that! 

Quoting Anonymous:

Work is for working should those moms also be denied pumping rights?


Quoting Dzyre1115:

 High school is for learning, not for parenting.  There is no medical need, so it's just too bad, quit school until you're done breastfeeding!


 




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