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spinoff of TCs am i a bully?

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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So a lot of you said she is not-thats fine I said she wasn't either, not my point. My point is that many said "she's very aggressively opinionated".

Now if your child was in school and another said "those glasses make you look fucking ugly as shit"
Or
"God damn you are fat, lose some weight"
And your child came home very distraught over this.

Is that bullying, or aggressively opinionated?
Its true. She has glasses that deform her eyes.
Or he's 15lbs overweight.
The other teen was telling the truth and their opinion.

Just curious where you draw the line between opinionated/hurting feelings and bullying/hurting feelings?
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:49 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:50 PM
We were all bullied in School.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:50 PM
None of that could ever be my kids.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:51 PM
Alright?

Doesnt really answer my question though but thanks for the bump!


Quoting Anonymous:

We were all bullied in School.

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by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:51 PM
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It's called being an asshole.

Kids, hell everyone for that matter, need to learn to not give a shit about what assholes say to them. 

Megan11587
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:52 PM
I think it is tactless but not bullying. In my opinion, bullying is more of a series of events. The constant, aggressive ridicule that the child cannot escape from. I don't think that one comment that is true is bullying.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:53 PM
I survived bullying. My kids don't need help defending themselves. They know what to do & who to talk to if the bullying becomes a constant thing.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:53 PM
Its hypothetical. Obviously not all children have the same issues. If you can't relate then IMAGINE some off trait your child has and someone pointing it out to the point it really effected their self esteem.


Quoting Anonymous:

None of that could ever be my kids.

Mocking.Jay
by Gold Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:53 PM

If it's detrimental to the child's self-esteem/confidence, then it's bullying. 

Just because a child may be fat doesn't give your child the right to tell them that. They could be suffering already. Maybe their parents tell them they're fat. I don't understand this logic, if that's what you call it.

ColleenF30
by Lube Girl on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:53 PM

If it is going on over and over like a broken record to a point the child can't learn yes it is bullying. Cause you know someone needs to be told 20 times a day every day just what their faults are.

AnnieMcD
by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:54 PM
I think the difference lies in context. If he said "Give me your honest opinion of my looks." And that was the response, it would be shitty, but it wouldn't be bullying. If he were simply walking around minding his own business, or talking about something else altogether however, that's bullying.
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