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Do you know anyone who "disappeared"?

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I've been watching cold case files, disappeared, basically any crime show. I'm wondering how often people go missing and are actually never found, or are actually found alive after years. 


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Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:59 PM
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pce68
by Patti on Jan. 30, 2013 at 9:56 PM

My grandfather went to work one day and never came home. That was 60+ years ago. We never found out what happened to him, and my grandmother never got remarried either.

viv212
by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 9:58 PM
Ugh I'm sorry to hear that.

Quoting Mrz.Anaya:

She was murdered for her car by a coworker. Stabbed over 40 times.




Quoting viv212:

:( What happened to her?





Quoting Mrz.Anaya:

My cousin was missing for about 2 months. They found her buried in the desert.

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Mama2ETA
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 10:00 PM

 Looks can be decieving. :-/ It's sad, but she was involved with known drug people. I worked with a guy that lived in her bf's neighborhood. They (her bf and friends) told him (he was friends with them) that they buried her under the back patio. He told the FBI and they deemed the tip as not important...but Belton police said she was a runaway and didn't even search her locker for a week. She left her money, carton of cigarettes, ipod, laptop, bank acct hasn't been touched, no clothes missing, nothing.

Quoting TrouserMouse:

Oh, that's right. It's been awhile now. I hoped they would find her. She looked like such a sweet girl.

Quoting Mama2ETA:

 Belton. You were close lol


Quoting TrouserMouse:

Isn't that the girl from Butler?


Quoting Mama2ETA:


 Kara Kopetsky, she disappeared on May 4, 2007 from her school.


 

 

Bradysmom83
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 10:00 PM

BUMP!

viv212
by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 10:01 PM
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I gotta cut in here. I don't think you've ever been scared of a person you thought would kill you? After leaving my abuser, I couldn't shower without a knife next to me.

I worked at a DV shelter and you'd be surprised at how many women do this. It's either this or die. The details are no one's business.


Quoting Mamasgirl524:

Not at all. You're being extreme. You have every right to cut off contact with anyone and everyone if you chose, but have the decency to tell a police officer so they can stop wasting resources on someone who isn't really missing and focus on those that are.



Quoting Anonymous:


thats fine, you are entitled to your opinion.  I suppose I should have just stayed and gotten killed and have my child killed eventually.  It would have  been a better use of police resources.



Quoting Mamasgirl524:

I'll be honest, nothing you can say will make me think it's not selfish.





Quoting Anonymous:


Like I said, you dont know my situation or how I came to make my choices.  You arent in a position to judge me.




Quoting Mamasgirl524:

The police won't give you up. It is selfish that they use their resources for a person who isn't really missing.







Quoting Anonymous:


You dont know my situation.  I dont know what was done to find me, I dont quite care.  My child's safety and mine were at risk and we did what we needd to.  If that is selfish so be it.





Quoting Mamasgirl524:

I hope you don't have police using their resources and family members sick worried about you. That's pretty fuckin selfish.









Quoting Anonymous:

I was that person.  I dropped all ties and communications suddenly, and moved far away, changed my phone, email and erased my fb.  

















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LucyHarper
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 10:01 PM

Sort of. He was about eight but doesn't remember a lot of it. His uncle put him in the car one day and drove him to this farm and left him there. He remembers that he thought it was strange that it was hot in the winter, so we think it was in the south (he lived in upstate NY). He remembers that it was really isolated, the people told him that if he ran away, there wasn't another house for miles so he would never make it before they found him and when he went into the city with them, he had to say he was their son,. His mother noticed after a few days that he was gone and when she asked where he was her brother told her not to worry about it and that he took care of him, so she let it drop. His teacher finally realized when he didn't return to school after winter break and talked to his friends parents, they all said that they hadn't seen him in a month and were worried, so she called his mother and uncles told them that she wanted proof by monday that he was alive or she was going to the cops, so the uncle went and got him.

Quoting viv212:

Does he know what happened to him?

Quoting LucyHarper:

My husband disappeared for a month as a kid. 



Mamasgirl524
by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 10:03 PM
Telling a police officer at your new location across the country so they can take you off the missing persons list sounds the opposite of selfish.

Quoting viv212:

I gotta cut in here. I don't think you've ever been scared of a person you thought would kill you? After leaving my abuser, I couldn't shower without a knife next to me.



I worked at a DV shelter and you'd be surprised at how many women do this. It's either this or die. The details are no one's business.




Quoting Mamasgirl524:

Not at all. You're being extreme. You have every right to cut off contact with anyone and everyone if you chose, but have the decency to tell a police officer so they can stop wasting resources on someone who isn't really missing and focus on those that are.





Quoting Anonymous:


thats fine, you are entitled to your opinion.  I suppose I should have just stayed and gotten killed and have my child killed eventually.  It would have  been a better use of police resources.




Quoting Mamasgirl524:

I'll be honest, nothing you can say will make me think it's not selfish.







Quoting Anonymous:


Like I said, you dont know my situation or how I came to make my choices.  You arent in a position to judge me.





Quoting Mamasgirl524:

The police won't give you up. It is selfish that they use their resources for a person who isn't really missing.









Quoting Anonymous:


You dont know my situation.  I dont know what was done to find me, I dont quite care.  My child's safety and mine were at risk and we did what we needd to.  If that is selfish so be it.






Quoting Mamasgirl524:

I hope you don't have police using their resources and family members sick worried about you. That's pretty fuckin selfish.











Quoting Anonymous:

I was that person.  I dropped all ties and communications suddenly, and moved far away, changed my phone, email and erased my fb.  




















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viv212
by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 10:05 PM
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What the hell how strange.

Reading this made me think of that Angelina Jolie movie where her son went missing and that there was that house full of kids that were kidnapped. Remember that?


Quoting LucyHarper:

Sort of. He was about eight but doesn't remember a lot of it. His uncle put him in the car one day and drove him to this farm and left him there. He remembers that he thought it was strange that it was hot in the winter, so we think it was in the south (he lived in upstate NY). He remembers that it was really isolated, the people told him that if he ran away, there wasn't another house for miles so he would never make it before they found him and when he went into the city with them, he had to say he was their son,. His mother noticed after a few days that he was gone and when she asked where he was her brother told her not to worry about it and that he took care of him, so she let it drop. His teacher finally realized when he didn't return to school after winter break and talked to his friends parents, they all said that they hadn't seen him in a month and were worried, so she called his mother and uncles told them that she wanted proof by monday that he was alive or she was going to the cops, so the uncle went and got him.


Quoting viv212:

Does he know what happened to him?



Quoting LucyHarper:

My husband disappeared for a month as a kid. 




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OneToughMami
by Ruby Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 10:05 PM

Honestly all SHE has to do is tell the police department that SHE is fine and wants nothing to do with her family and that will be that. They will declare her past life dead and move forward. I am sure they have better things to worry about that still searching for someone who has been gone this long. Usually after such a span of time the case is closed.

Quoting Mamasgirl524:

Not at all. You're being extreme. You have every right to cut off contact with anyone and everyone if you chose, but have the decency to tell a police officer so they can stop wasting resources on someone who isn't really missing and focus on those that are.

Quoting Anonymous:


thats fine, you are entitled to your opinion.  I suppose I should have just stayed and gotten killed and have my child killed eventually.  It would have  been a better use of police resources.


Quoting Mamasgirl524:

I'll be honest, nothing you can say will make me think it's not selfish.



Quoting Anonymous:


Like I said, you dont know my situation or how I came to make my choices.  You arent in a position to judge me.



Quoting Mamasgirl524:

The police won't give you up. It is selfish that they use their resources for a person who isn't really missing.





Quoting Anonymous:


You dont know my situation.  I dont know what was done to find me, I dont quite care.  My child's safety and mine were at risk and we did what we needd to.  If that is selfish so be it.




Quoting Mamasgirl524:

I hope you don't have police using their resources and family members sick worried about you. That's pretty fuckin selfish.







Quoting Anonymous:

I was that person.  I dropped all ties and communications suddenly, and moved far away, changed my phone, email and erased my fb.  
















viv212
by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 10:06 PM
You seem nice and probably mean well but you don't know what you're talking about.

Quoting Mamasgirl524:

Telling a police officer at your new location across the country so they can take you off the missing persons list sounds the opposite of selfish.



Quoting viv212:

I gotta cut in here. I don't think you've ever been scared of a person you thought would kill you? After leaving my abuser, I couldn't shower without a knife next to me.





I worked at a DV shelter and you'd be surprised at how many women do this. It's either this or die. The details are no one's business.






Quoting Mamasgirl524:

Not at all. You're being extreme. You have every right to cut off contact with anyone and everyone if you chose, but have the decency to tell a police officer so they can stop wasting resources on someone who isn't really missing and focus on those that are.







Quoting Anonymous:


thats fine, you are entitled to your opinion.  I suppose I should have just stayed and gotten killed and have my child killed eventually.  It would have  been a better use of police resources.





Quoting Mamasgirl524:

I'll be honest, nothing you can say will make me think it's not selfish.









Quoting Anonymous:


Like I said, you dont know my situation or how I came to make my choices.  You arent in a position to judge me.






Quoting Mamasgirl524:

The police won't give you up. It is selfish that they use their resources for a person who isn't really missing.











Quoting Anonymous:


You dont know my situation.  I dont know what was done to find me, I dont quite care.  My child's safety and mine were at risk and we did what we needd to.  If that is selfish so be it.







Quoting Mamasgirl524:

I hope you don't have police using their resources and family members sick worried about you. That's pretty fuckin selfish.













Quoting Anonymous:

I was that person.  I dropped all ties and communications suddenly, and moved far away, changed my phone, email and erased my fb.  























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