So my mother in law went to the hospital today thinking she had appendicitis turns out Its a hernia but she doesn't have insurance so she can't afford the surgery. She's back home now and I texted her asking if she'd like me to bring the girls by. Back story her and father in law are asses. They've hated me since day one cuz they didn't pick me. They haven't seen their grandkids since Halloween and have seen them less than 20 times in their life. From August 2011 till November last year we lived 5 minutes away. Since November we live an hour away. The grandkids are 1 and 2. around Christmas I found out after I had my first they told Dh to get a paternity test and I flipped out. I haven't spoken to them since. They never call Dh and ask about the grandkids and the only other family member they talk to is dh's uncle who told me they haven't even mentioned the grandkids to him since Christmas. I'm trying to be nice to her and reach out. She doesn't respond to my text so I had Dh text his dad and his dad said no. I get she's in pain I can't imagine the pain she's in but she hasn't seen her grandkids in three months. They're the only grandkids they have. I feel really hurt by this. My kids are well behaved they wouldn't be jumping on her or anything my kids have never been like that and she doesn't want to see them. Hell she hardly pays attention to them everytime she's seen them. It just pisses me off that I try and try and it doesn't matter to them. I feel they hate my kids cuz I wasn't their choice for Dh. Do I have a right to be mad? I of course won't say anything to her about this I'm just dropping it but Idk if I'm crazy for being upset or what. No rude comments please.