Not dissing sahms at all, just offering a different perspective on reasons why I prefer to work. I have been on both sides, sahm, and now wohm. Working is definitely the best for my family. When I was a sahm I only did it for my kids since they were babies. We lived paycheck to paycheck. It was so very stressful. It was many times miserable for me because I literally had no money for anything extra. I couldn't even buy myself a cup of coffee and had to scrounge for loose change around the house. Dh paid the basic bills but after that, there was nothing left. We never once used food stamps or wic of any kind. Now my kids are older. Now I work full time. Now we can finally take a memorable family vacation once a year. Finally, my kids can be excited to go to a friend's birthday party because we can buy a gift for their friend. We can eat out when we want to. They have all their needs met. And finally, I can have MY needs met too. I can buy myself make up, clothing, shoes, I can pay for hair cuts, we can have plenty of family fun. Work hard, play harder. Since I began working 4 yrs ago, we finally got to take our first family vacation in 7 yrs, to Florida, and another to a cabin in the mountains. These are times we will never forget. Our lives are so much more improved since I began working. What kind of life is it when you can never enjoy it or do something for yourself? some sahms may be lucky enough that their dh makes enough to have needs met and extra, but it wasn't that way for us, and for the majority of people out there.
disclaimer: when I say I can buy myself shoes, that means one pair of sneakers that I need, one dress shoes, and one pair of sandals from Kohls, I do not have 800 pairs of fancy shoes. When I say I can get clothes, that means things I need from Kohls or Target, not Nieman Marcus.