My exes son with new wife.. throws a fit, get what he wants so he will "be quiet". Now in preschool and cant /first wont follow rules or behave. Massive fit thrower now.
My kids are well behaved and well adjusted. Sure, we have problems but they are not defiant and they MIND. I can take them anywhere, and always have. They understand what behaviir is expected of them. Our biggest issue is keeping thier rooms clean.
I was a single mom for years. I didnt have time for misbehavior. I didnt reward misbehavior. QUIT REWARDING MISBEHAVIOR!! Just stop!
They talk back? Immediately to bed. They dont want to get in tbier carseat? Put them in there! They dont want to feed the dog? They dont eat till the dog does. Bad grades? No tv and extra homework at home. Stop rescuing your kids and make them responsible for their own actions.
Positive reinforcement is a must. But punishments in relationship to the crime is also important. Dont be a friend..be a parent.!!