Edit. I posted this on FB and dh puts that I told him in a text. We have been discussing this for a year or so I thought. So I posted back that he must never listen because we've been talking about it for a year and the text was to give him the day so he could get time off to watch the kids while I go. My mother said that I need to give him a break because men don't listen and he's a great dad. Uh yeah I know he's a great dad but he shouldn't be defended for not listening to me on a serious subject and my own mom defending him and not caring that he just put me down by pretty much saying I don't discuss serious things with him. Ugh I'm so upset I have a funeral to go to I have nothing to wear my mom was going to let me borrow something and now I never want to see her again.