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So, I'm talking to dh, and he goes, "Blah blah blah..." while making a little talking hand puppet gesture...

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  Dh is bad about not listening to me. He'll sometimes talk over me, or cut me off, or just act as if he can't even hear me. Or, even if he doesn't do that, later I will mention it again and he's like, "WHAT?! You didn't tell me that?!" Uh, yes I did! If you would just LISTEN you would know that.

  Last night I was trying to explain something to him, and he had turned his back and didn't appear to even hear me, so I try explaining it further, hoping it will sink in to his thick skull, then he says, "Blah blah blah... Why do you have to talk so much. Just get to the point!" while making this talking hand puppet gesture to demonstrate my apparently 'annoying' talkativeness.

  I said, "You're rude and mean. Is that to the point?" He laughed, not thinking I could ACTUALLY be offended by what he said. Then he came over to the couch and was trying to kiss me and hold hands and be lovey like he didn't just really insult me. angryThe whole night he seemed really confused as to why his comment would offend me and why I was still mad. I explained it, of course, as concisely as I could, but he just doesn't seem to get it, just like he doesn't seem to get 80% of what I say.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 31, 2013 at 9:50 AM
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michiganmom5150
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:27 PM
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My bf just kisses me and says take a breath! I'm not insulted I know I ramble!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:29 PM

 

 I really don't. I was just continuing to talk because it didn't seem like he heard me. If he would just acnowledge me in the first place, I would stop talking a lot sooner! Plus, he has a really annoying habit of telling me the same stories over and over and over again, and I don't get rude at him about it.

Quoting Kool_Aide:

Well....do you talk a lot? It may hurt your feelings, but have you considered how annoyed and bother he might be?


 

Lalalie
by Gold Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:31 PM

That is a huge communciation problem you guys seem to have, as well as lack of respect in the relationship for you.

=/

I would be very insulted, and it would not be okay.

TeamTARDIS
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:34 PM
Of DH would be in the dog house for that, and we don't even have a dog!
How incredibly rude.
Even if you do tend to ramble, it doesn't give anyone the ride to be flat out rude.
Next time he spoke to me I would walk away from him and completely ignore him.
jamamama00
by Ruby Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:36 PM

When you talk to him, just try to get straight to the point. For example, instead of explaining why he needs to do x,y, or z, just say, you know, "Pick the kids up at three tomorrow." Think of men as having untreatable ADHD.

Luna091306
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:37 PM

 That is really disrespectful! Dh doesn't do that but one thing he does that annoys the crap out of me is asking the same question five times in a row. I answer each time but he asks again 2 mins later. By the fourth time I get irritated and then he's offended by my tone. Well, I already frickin told you! Open up your frickin ears!

melissa632
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:38 PM
I'm this way, too. I just don't have the patience for excessive talkers. Get to the point & let's move on to the next thing. I try not to be bitchy about it though. I'm sure I don't always succeed :/

Quoting almondpigeon:

i'm sorry that he did that.  i have to admit, though, i do that to my husband.  it takes him 20 minutes to tell a 2 minute story & i lose all interest listening to him ramble.  i will tell him, "you're gonna have to get to the point, i'm losing interest fast".  i don't think it hurts his feelings...i sure don't intend for it to.maybe you ramble a little bit too???

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Melissa_4
by Ruby Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:38 PM

If my husband ever pulled the hand puppet gesture, he would get smacked across the face like a disrespectful child.  That's bullshit.

mamatocaleb
by Silver Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:38 PM

 I woulda laughed. You're taking it way too seriously. This is how some guys are. They tell you before marriage take them as they are, because you wont change them. I know when I'm talking to my husband to get to the point, I don't need the details because that doesn't matter to him. He's not my girl friends, he doesn't need the whole picture drawn out....maybe thats the case for your husband?

almondpigeon
by Ruby Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:50 PM
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I don't realize I'm being bitchy about it.  One time I actually said to him, "I don't even know what the hell you're talking about anymore.  Please wrap it up."  He let me know he thought was bitchy. I try to be nicer about it now.  

Quoting melissa632:

I'm this way, too. I just don't have the patience for excessive talkers. Get to the point & let's move on to the next thing. I try not to be bitchy about it though. I'm sure I don't always succeed :/

Quoting almondpigeon:

i'm sorry that he did that.  i have to admit, though, i do that to my husband.  it takes him 20 minutes to tell a 2 minute story & i lose all interest listening to him ramble.  i will tell him, "you're gonna have to get to the point, i'm losing interest fast".  i don't think it hurts his feelings...i sure don't intend for it to.maybe you ramble a little bit too???



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