Currently my dd is not allowed to see her father. Legally, he has no rights to her because he is her step father and never actually adopted her...but he is the only father she has ever known.
But he is heavy into cocaine and other drugs and she is not safe with him. At 10, I feel she is old enough to understand WHY she can't see him.
I already know that one question is WHY does Daddy do drugs?
How do I explain to her the why?
This is what I was going to go for...
Drugs make Daddy feel kind of like you do after you perform (dance). You have all this energy and are so happy. That is the feeling that Daddy gets and it makes him feel good. BUT when that wears off it is like you when you are really tired and had too much sugar but all that energy is out of your body. He doesn't know how to stop. He doesn't know how to get that feeling in another way like you do. They have him in their grip kind of like King Kong in a monster movie. Once you try drugs they don't let you go. Until Daddy gets the help he needs he is not safe for you to be around.