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Does anyone have an older child with an iep?

Posted by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:20 PM
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I have my 12 year old daughters tri annual iep meeting Friday, she is dyslexic, and am thinking about asking for less services for her. She is doing great she is getting a's and b's in all her classes. And right now is really only going to see the specialist once or twice a month usually to get feedback on a writing assignment.
I'm on the fence though because I know her math teacher gives her modified tests (less per page and bigger text and also more time if needed) and her English teacher allows her to use notes on tests. But her reading is up to grade level and she rarely needs more time for any thing. The only big struggle still is writing she has a hard time getting her ideas into organized sentences and paragraphs.
So if you have an older kid with an iep when did you start having them depend less on the iep and more on theirself?
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JerseyAirGurl
by *Ada* on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:25 PM

I only have my 3 month old... But I taught inclusion classes (middle school English). I would honestly ask your child and the teachers for input. Does she really rely on those notes in English while taking tests? How often does she need that extra time for tests etc? You can also ask for a trial period to see if your daughter can do without the modifications.

kristyp.
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:28 PM
Yes for my 12 yr old son. He's doing great this year so I've left it in place. Just made minor changes.
kristyp.
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:31 PM
Why rock the boat? Sounds like she's doing great.
LCWAmommy
by Ruby Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:34 PM
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Yeah that's what I'm worried about I was thinking about cutting out the rsp she's supposed to go 2 times a week but she has started going only every once in a while but really what's wrong with having that help if she needs it? I also don't want her using her disability as a crutch. In elementary school they let her get away with not doing work and such because of her dyslexia and I have struggled with her this year to make sure all her work is done and turned in. Maybe I can suggest her specialist works in organization with her half the time she does the work but shoves it in her backpack and loses it. Hmmmmmm I will have to pick some brains tomorrow.

Quoting JerseyAirGurl:

I only have my 3 month old... But I taught inclusion classes (middle school English). I would honestly ask your child and the teachers for input. Does she really rely on those notes in English while taking tests? How often does she need that extra time for tests etc? You can also ask for a trial period to see if your daughter can do without the modifications.

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LCWAmommy
by Ruby Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:36 PM
Well the goal is to eventually phase out services and give her tools prepare her for college and the real world where you professor and boss don't really care if you are dyslexic they just want your crap done on time.

Quoting kristyp.:

Why rock the boat? Sounds like she's doing great.
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RayneofTerror
by Silver Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:37 PM

My 12 year old is still on the IEP the school recommends. If you don't want her on the IEP anymore you could ask for a 504 plan. 

JerseyAirGurl
by *Ada* on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:38 PM

I've seen extremes lol... I've seen parents ask for declassification way before a child was ready and parents advocate for more services which the child truly could arise to the challenge. It's always good to get different insight but def still feel a parent is the best advocate for their child's education. Good luck! 

Quoting LCWAmommy:

Yeah that's what I'm worried about I was thinking about cutting out the rsp she's supposed to go 2 times a week but she has started going only every once in a while but really what's wrong with having that help if she needs it? I also don't want her using her disability as a crutch. In elementary school they let her get away with not doing work and such because of her dyslexia and I have struggled with her this year to make sure all her work is done and turned in. Maybe I can suggest her specialist works in organization with her half the time she does the work but shoves it in her backpack and loses it. Hmmmmmm I will have to pick some brains tomorrow.

Quoting JerseyAirGurl:

I only have my 3 month old... But I taught inclusion classes (middle school English). I would honestly ask your child and the teachers for input. Does she really rely on those notes in English while taking tests? How often does she need that extra time for tests etc? You can also ask for a trial period to see if your daughter can do without the modifications.


kristyp.
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:42 PM
I would cut back slowly. Def once one is mastered then work on a different one. My son never turned in his homework so now he just gets it done at school.
firefly63701
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:43 PM

My 11 yr old just got his speech and language taken away from him.  I was all set to have a fit because they also teach him his social skills there as well.  They promised to keep it up with his school counsular, so we will see how it goes.

LCWAmommy
by Ruby Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:58 PM
I want to do what's best for her, when she was tested her in 3rd grade, they suggested based on grades to have her go for math too. Knowing she has always been great at math and that 3rd grade is a lot of word problems I declined and asked that we just keep an eye on things. It really was the best choice for her because she would have missed a lot more class going to rsp for 2 subjects.

Quoting JerseyAirGurl:

I've seen extremes lol... I've seen parents ask for declassification way before a child was ready and parents advocate for more services which the child truly could arise to the challenge. It's always good to get different insight but def still feel a parent is the best advocate for their child's education. Good luck! 

Quoting LCWAmommy:

Yeah that's what I'm worried about I was thinking about cutting out the rsp she's supposed to go 2 times a week but she has started going only every once in a while but really what's wrong with having that help if she needs it? I also don't want her using her disability as a crutch. In elementary school they let her get away with not doing work and such because of her dyslexia and I have struggled with her this year to make sure all her work is done and turned in. Maybe I can suggest her specialist works in organization with her half the time she does the work but shoves it in her backpack and loses it. Hmmmmmm I will have to pick some brains tomorrow.



Quoting JerseyAirGurl:

I only have my 3 month old... But I taught inclusion classes (middle school English). I would honestly ask your child and the teachers for input. Does she really rely on those notes in English while taking tests? How often does she need that extra time for tests etc? You can also ask for a trial period to see if your daughter can do without the modifications.


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