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Help my 4.5yr old. . .

Posted by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 4:07 PM
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Because i'm sucking at it. since he was little little things have been off with him. the way he reacts to people, or the way he doesnt react to people. he cannot express his emotions or anything for that matter. he looks at you with a blank stare when you speak to him. he growls at us. he hurts himself- hurts us. throws things. purposelly breaks his things our things his sisters things. sorry is a nonexistant word in his vocabulary. i'm not sure whats going on. its almost scary. . no it is scary, he gets into violent outburts and scratches his face to the point of bleeding. if i'm home with him and try to stop him with a bear hug, he freaks, he's so strong it scares me. dh can restrain him but our son screams bloody murder and gets so red in the face and tears stream down his face. after trying different methods- and none working i tried having him admitted into a crisis unit in our local hospital, but they wont until he's 5. i've spoken to his pedi and she has referred me to multiple doctors. i have made calls to every doctor she gave me and they wont see him until he's 5- mind you there are PEDIATRIC doctors. why the hell wont they see him! the only place i've gotten him into was the elementary schools child study team so he could be evaluated. i'm not even sure if i'm headed in the right direction with this. i dont spank or yell at him. i surprisingly stay very calm, but i do hide in the bathroom and cry because its breaking my heart. help =(
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seegrace
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 4:14 PM

Oh wow.. Im so sorry you are going through this.  Stay strong.  I honestly don't know anything first hand about autism, but sounds a bit like some of the stories I've read.  I have a good friend whose son was diagnosed ADD/ADHD, bipolar and borderline psychophrenic at around 5 or 6 years old.  The school and the child study team was a huge help for her in setting him up with doctors and specialists. She had him admitted into the crisis unit multiple times before the school finally took action and helped.

The good news - he is 9 years old now and after some ups and downs with getting the proper medication, he is doing FANTASTIC.  He is in a special school (out of district placement, because she lives in a rough neighborhood), he LOVES school, is doing great in school. He's made friends and is doing really good with his therapist also.  Honestly I can't believe the change in him.  He use to be very difficult to be around. Now he is a pleasure to hang out with.  He has his moments - but they are regular every day kid moments and not historical meltdowns.  I wish you the best of luck and hope for a good outcome.  I do think that the school will be able to help.  Hang in there! 

LaLa_Ivory
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 5:18 PM
I have a lady come once a week to work with him and me and my husband so we can cope and deal with everything the right way. she has said autism multiple times. she has said ODD as well. i dont want to slap a label on him but something is wrong with him and we cant figure it out alone. he doesnt socialize. he doesnt make friends. he doesnt play with his toys right. he doesnt speak right. its killing me


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Oh wow.. Im so sorry you are going through this.  Stay strong.  I honestly don't know anything first hand about autism, but sounds a bit like some of the stories I've read.  I have a good friend whose son was diagnosed ADD/ADHD, bipolar and borderline psychophrenic at around 5 or 6 years old.  The school and the child study team was a huge help for her in setting him up with doctors and specialists. She had him admitted into the crisis unit multiple times before the school finally took action and helped.


The good news - he is 9 years old now and after some ups and downs with getting the proper medication, he is doing FANTASTIC.  He is in a special school (out of district placement, because she lives in a rough neighborhood), he LOVES school, is doing great in school. He's made friends and is doing really good with his therapist also.  Honestly I can't believe the change in him.  He use to be very difficult to be around. Now he is a pleasure to hang out with.  He has his moments - but they are regular every day kid moments and not historical meltdowns.  I wish you the best of luck and hope for a good outcome.  I do think that the school will be able to help.  Hang in there! 


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by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 5:19 PM
Sounds to me like he is autistic...I'm no help. Sorry.

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by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 5:25 PM

I am going through a similar problem.

My daughter has been a AB honor roll student since she started school. She is in 2nd grade. Just recently we move out of state. I figured it would take her some time to adjust, atleast a month or so. Well it has been almost 3 months and she has not changed. She is constanly blurting out in class, gets up out of her seat. etc. I have a son that is ADD and she is showing signs of it. I also wonder if maybe she is bipolar, she gets mad and will huff and puff, well today she was hitting herself with her book. Not like beating herself, just hitting her head against it. We do not spank, but it has come down to no other option. She has a doctors appt set for Monday. I don't know what else to do.

LaLa_Ivory
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 7:31 PM
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