I'm so done with this cancer crap *Update with his horrible diagnoses...
I posted on here a while ago that my father in law MAY have cancer. He hadn't been to a doctor to confirm it, and he finally went today. DH called to see how it went (we live 1,200 miles away) and he wouldn't tell him shit.
DH: how did the appointment go?
DHD: it went okay.
DH: what did the doctors say?
DH: is it cancer?
DH: maybe yes?
DHD: they ruled out tumor, cyst and blood clot.
DH: so is it cancer?
DHD: dont know. they found something but i aint telling anybody but mom
DH: okay ill call mom
DHD: phones disconnected. and hangs up.
thats it. he called his moms friend and she went to his moms house so he could talk and his mom said "everythings fine" and hung up on him and then wouldn't answer.
it fucking pisses me off that they are in there 40s and 50s and jerking there kids around like this.
if you arent going to tell them whats wrong, dont tell them shit. dont mention it to them at all. you dont call and get my whole damn family upset and then promise you'll call and give us all the details and then not tell us shit. yes i know it could be hard for them to accept but its no easier for my DH to not know if his dads okay or not, and if somethings wrong he wants to go back and visit his dad and we won't know shit because his dad wants to create drama.
this isn't unusual for him. he'll keep doing this til he gets enough of his drama, and then they'll give in and tell. maybe i'm being selfish, but i hate seeing DH stress out and be so scared. his dad is his world even tho he won't admit it. He looks up to his dad more than anybody else.
i've posted the photo of his "cancer" and everyone says its not cancer, or that they've never saw cancer like that. i think its a lousy skin infection like the original doctor said.
vent over. tell me how horrible and selfish i am.
After all that drama, and getting my husband all worked up. He finally gave in and told his his diagnoses.
A vein in his leg is swollen.
Hes not going to die, he doesn't have cancer, no surgery, not going to lose a leg.
He has to take 1 tylenol ifit hurts and 1 pill twice a day to reduce swelling.
Yep. Thats it.
Kinda pissed off, but relieved at the same time.