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I am nervous to tell Dh. *updated*

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Dh and I have been married for 7 years. 11 year ago I was a single mom with a 6 month old baby. I was a waitress and this guy kept coming in and asking for me to wait on him. He would leave huge tips--he saw my daughter's pic in my book and asked about her. I told him and he left a $100 tip and said he wanted me to buy my daughter something. He came in one day and we were talking, he said he had overheard me talking with another employee about my car. He left a $600 tip because I desperately needed new tires. For my birthday, he gave me a gift cert for a massage and a gift cert for dinner and a show, as well as a Tiffany's bracelet AND $1,000 as birthday money.

As time went on I got to know him better. He was a sweet man with no family or friends. He was the CEO of a Fortune 500 company. He became my sugar daddy. We never had sex or did anything sexual. We have remained friends. I feel like it's time to tell Dh about the money. He knew we were friends but thought the money and gifts came from family. I have no father, and this man was like a father to me. He paid for Disney world for Dh and I and our 4 kids. He gave me $50k to put down on our house. He also gave me $35k for mine and dh's anniversary to buy Dh the car he wanted. I told Dh I won the trip to Disney, and won the car. I was scared to tell him another man was financing our lifestyle.

This man has now gone into a nursing home. I am the only heir to his money and assets. He is very ill. Dh is not jealous of him, but I worry when he finds out this man is leaving me $11.7m. I know he will love the money, but I know I should have been honest.

This man has no one but me. I have never asked him for a dime, but he has always volunteered to give me anything I wanted. Once he saw something I liked on Facebook and a week later, the new sofa was at my door lol.

I know I was wrong to lie to Dh. I mostly thought having a sugar daddy made me weak and I thought Dh would think so too.

I'm going to tell him tomorrow.

Update: I talked to Dh last night. As I expected he was very upset about this. No amount of money is worth the lies. No, we aren't divorcing and we aren't separating. He was initially angry because I lied so much and lied to cover up lies. Then he was frustrated and disappointed in not only me, but himself for being naive and not questioning everything. We will be taking the money as previously arranged, but Dh is still upset. He wishes I had just been honest. He said he really feels like crap because I was too afraid to tell him the truth since he's so judgmental. I am not blaming him for my lies at all, but if he had been more accepting of others and situations I wouldn't have lied. It's still my fault and I know that.

He still loves me but will have to work to regain trust. We love each other and something like this isn't going to destroy us. Btw I talked to my friend who has asked me to just call him uncle as my children do. It feels awesome to finally have validity for our 'family', I guess. He is in the assisted living facility but is not doing well at all. We hope he will live a few more years, but he's said himself that his work on earth is done. I understand but he is still so much a part of my life. I do love him dearly. My husband understands this and loves him, too.

Thanks for the support ladies.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:17 PM
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:23 PM
Why is this funny to you?!

Quoting Anonymous:


by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:23 PM
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i was a waitress for year and thought my old guy regular leaving me 20 bucks was good lol. do you go see him a lot? if he has so much money why not have home care jw?

by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:24 PM

Are you afraid that he's going to look at you like a prostitute? I'm not even trying to be mean, I just mentally pictured how my husband would react. He would be freaking pissed and disgusted, assuming sex acts had gone on (I know you said that didn't happen).

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:24 PM
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 Hey, it was worth a try. I bet my DH wouldn't even care where the money came from! LOL

Quoting Anonymous:

Lol :-).

Quoting stephiebugg:

 If you don't want to tell him and feel bad about taking the money, I can PM you my address.



by Silver Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:24 PM
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:25 PM
I don't know. Honestly he knew we were just friends. Dh's mom was a single mom and Dh had told me how much respect he has for her because she did it all with no help. I was afraid he would think I was weak if I had a man helping me financially. I still worked, but didn't have to work as much as I did.

Quoting valeriesmom1112:

If this is real you are the luckiest person i know. Why didn you tell dh before

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:25 PM
What you choose to believe is irrelevant, because this is true.

Quoting Anonymous:

What a wonderful story. I don't believe one word of it.

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:26 PM
You sure you didn't have sex with him?
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by Mrs.Erika2 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:26 PM
Im sure that your dh didnt realize that your family wasnt as wealthy as you made them seemed to be , after all he had 7 yrs to see it
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by Silver Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:28 PM
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