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update: emotional incest

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Thats what my husband and sd13have. I did some research and its rampant, unfortunately most of the time, the parent and the child doesnt know its happening but the effect on the child is destructive particularly to the child. It seems it happens very often on divorced or separated couple/parents and couples who are having marital or serious domestic issues.its also closely related to parental alienation. Emotional incest happens when parent child relationship changes into where the parent becomes emotionally dependent to the child.when the unhappy mommy or daddy turns to the child for comfort cause the spouse or partner failed to give emotional support or refuse to do so.the child is forced to be a grown up.. To be a pillar.. A shoulder to cry on.. The ears to listen to the parents unhappiness.. To validate how good mommy or daddy is..to be mommy or daddys self extension.. To be mommys lil knight or daddys mini wife..

And after reading statements from people who suffered emotional incest, im scared that my husband will do it to our babies.. How she groomed sd13 to be his mini wife.no sexual abuse but i can see how he has a hold and control over sd13.tsk.tsk.. Time for me to start packing up.

Update..im sorry to offend some people.i am sharing this experience because it is happening.and it is a form of abuse where the kids suffer a lot.. Particularly in his adulthood and ability to have a successful relationship.. I wasnt aware of it until a cmers mentioned it from my last post prior to this.
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 1, 2013 at 12:10 AM
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littlesippycup
by Ruby Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 1:27 AM
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Sometimes I hate this place. The horrible things I learn....

Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Feb. 1, 2013 at 1:27 AM
Are you the woman that didn't care last night? As long as you had your privacy and he didn't groom your dd you didn't mind being a cold hearted birch? Why the sudden interest?
crumpy_gat
by No. on Feb. 1, 2013 at 1:37 AM
This is the first I've heard of it--egads is right!

Quoting Anonymous:

Egads, thanks for the info. This describes my ex and his mother. I always described it as "reverse Oedipus" but this is better. I'm going to go take a hot shower and scrub now.



Quoting crumpy_gat:

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Covert_incest





Quoting Anonymous:

This. Jesus.







Quoting Anonymous:

It's an unhealthy parent/child relationship but I think calling it emotional incest is a bit much. incest implies a sexual relationship.

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skittlefart
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 1:37 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 1, 2013 at 7:46 AM
Yep.thats me.i know there is something wrong with his relationship with sd but i couldnt define it except shes a miniwife or daddys girl to the extreme .i remember husband bashing his ex and saying bad things about her to sd .


Quoting Anonymous:

You're the one married to the guy sharing the bed with his dd, right?



You're doing the right thing.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 1, 2013 at 7:50 AM
It is emotional incest because the child is turned into surrogate spouseinstead of simply being a child.the parent and child relationship gets way too close but doea not reach the point of having sexual relationship, otherwise that becomes physical incest.


Quoting Anonymous:

It's an unhealthy parent/child relationship but I think calling it emotional incest is a bit much. incest implies a sexual relationship.


MrsErdos2011
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 8:06 AM

No. He looks up to his dad and wants to be like him because your son thinks he's the coolest. His dad doesn't need him to be  the one he turns to for his emotinal needs. Those two things are leagues apart.

Quoting Anonymous:

So because my son wants to be a chef like daddy and has the same favorite color that I do its emotional incest? Seriously?


I may not be a perfect wife or mother but I am perfect in the eyes of my son and my husband and that is all that matters.

Mamasgirl524
by Platinum Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 8:10 AM
This is the most elaborate troll story ever. PM me, give me some pointers.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:35 AM
Go search covert incest and emotional incest.. U can also look up electra complex


Quoting Mamasgirl524:

This is the most elaborate troll story ever. PM me, give me some pointers.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 1, 2013 at 11:53 AM

in·cest  

/ˈinsest/
Noun
  1. Sexual relations between people classed as being too closely related to marry each other.
  2. The crime of having sexual intercourse with a parent, child, sibling, or grandchild.
Quoting Anonymous:

It is emotional incest because the child is turned into surrogate spouseinstead of simply being a child.the parent and child relationship gets way too close but doea not reach the point of having sexual relationship, otherwise that becomes physical incest.


Quoting Anonymous:

It's an unhealthy parent/child relationship but I think calling it emotional incest is a bit much. incest implies a sexual relationship.



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