My oldest son is 19 he got his CNA cerification about a week after my DGS was born was able to get a job at our local hospital and marry his 17 year old GF. I watch DGS while my DIL finishes her last year of high school, she has now asked me to consider watching him so she can go to college. Her parents never help out, I love my Grandson, but I have a 13 and 14 year old too and don't know if I want to stay tied down to him, out of obligation. Am I being selfish? I am 49 years old now, and just want a little free time.
I want to thank you guys for all the advice and reassuring me that the way I was feeling wasn't selfish in a bad way. I had the time to talk to Dh he is 8 years older than me, and he doesn't blame me either, but gave me some things to think about. 1. Shouldn't we want the mother of our grandchild to be self sufficient, this way if my son and DIL split and she gets custody she can support him without a lot of help from us? 2. What if DS was a DD instead, wouldn't we bend over backwards to make sure she finishes school and gets a decent college education? 3. The only vacations we will be taking in the next 5 years will be over the summer, because our youngest will still be in high school another 5 years, so what does it matter?
So here is what I've decided, I'm going to help but, only if it's no more than 3 days, I'm going to ask DIL to ask her mom and see if she is willing to take at least one day, her mom is younger than me by 10 years and doesn't work. I know they could choose daycare, but we are trying to help them so they won't have to pay out the money for that. I'm also going to speak to my son and see what his plans are, I'd really like him to move forward as well he is making 10 dollars an hour but one dollar of that is shift differential, he is doing a good job stepping up to the plate, but there has to be something out there he could make more money at. I wanted him to go to college too.