I'm becoming a SAHM.
I spent a couple of hours this morning considering this, getting the numbers down on paper, and making a pro/con list. I can't return to work from my maternity leave. Now that we have four children, we will lose money if I return to my job because of the cost of childcare for two new babies. Between the childcare, commute expenses, and miscellaneous expenses (food, coffee, office attire), we can't even break even. It will be a loss of hundreds of dollars per month.
The job is part-time (24 hours per week), and my income makes up about 1/5 of our total income. I was never doing it for the money, but I think that feeling like we both contribute financially helped him to ignore any financial burdens that come with having a big family. Basically, I feel like his opposition to me being a SAHM (which only came to light during this last pregnancy) is that it scares him to be the sole earner. I totally understand that it's a lot of pressure.
I know that this is a major life/family decision, and I really want him to be on board. I want us to move into a new chapter excited, not resenting each other. As much as we need to discuss it and agree to it, I've pretty much made up my mind. If it is more expensive for me to return to work than stay home and I am satisfied being home with the kids, then I fail to see why we would choose any other way.