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I'm not really pregnant

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I don't know how this has gotten so out of hand. My husband and I have been trying for over a year. I've been taking some magic little pills to help things along for the past 4 months. I had a miscarriage 2 months ago. 

Two weeks ago I was excited to tell my husband that I bought his favorite ice cream and I came up to him all smiles and said "guess what?"

He grabbed me and hugged me. He was so happy, because he assumed we were pregnant again. I don't know what came over me but I said that I was. I think I was secretly hoping that in a few days when I went to test, I actually would be, but I'm not.

We said we weren't going to tell anyone yet, but he blabbed to a couple of my friends husbands and now we are supposed to be telling our family on valentine's day.

How did I let it get so out of hand. I didn't mean to lie and I didn't know it would get so big so fast. I told him that we have an appointment next week for an ultrasound.

Do I just fake another miscarriage at this point? I really don't know what else to do to save face.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:42 PM
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Peytonsmommy310
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:49 PM
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Do you blame him?


Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting spicy_n_sweet:

Tell him the truth.  If you can't tell the man you chose to spend the rest of your life with the truth.....about anything......there's something wrong there.

Tell him the truth. Let him process it.   Let the cards fall where they may.

that's a terrible idea. If I tell him the truth I come off as not trust worthy. He'll be wondering what else I've lied about.


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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:50 PM
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Take him on the "Maury" show, and tell him you have something to tell him, and then destroy his world on national tv, like everyone else who wants their 15 minutes of fame.

EAzizM
by Erica on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:50 PM
Come clean. Don't fake a miscarriage, that is shady and dishonest.
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babyboy117
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:50 PM
You are eventually going to have to come clean. At this point, he may understand if you tell him just like you told us. You had a miscarriage and that is rough. You saw him all happy and didn't want to ruin it. He may be upset for a couple days. But it would be sooo bad to lie to him about a miscarriage! Or even worse, go on with the lie. Fess up now before it is too late.

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Shani527:

fess up

I can't tell him that I've been lying to him or two weeks

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SillySally83
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:50 PM
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I'm sorry but I can't help but laugh because this sounds like an episode of a bad sitcom.

I know it's not a funny situation, and all I can tell you is to be honest and hope that eventually after the dust settled everyone can look back and laugh at the sitcomish absurdity of it.

SadeAyosmom
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:51 PM

say you went to dr and your not really pregnant false positive.

faking a miscarriage ... is a bit evil cause he will think you lost a foetus.

just tell him you were wrong.

numonestunar
by Platinum Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:51 PM
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What else have you lied about?

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting spicy_n_sweet:

Tell him the truth.  If you can't tell the man you chose to spend the rest of your life with the truth.....about anything......there's something wrong there.

Tell him the truth. Let him process it.   Let the cards fall where they may.

that's a terrible idea. If I tell him the truth I come off as not trust worthy. He'll be wondering what else I've lied about.

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babyboy117
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:52 PM
This is probaly the next best thing you can do besides telling the truth!

Quoting Anonymous:

False positive... And I feelsorry for your DH...
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:52 PM
Say it was a faulty pregnancy test?
spicy_n_sweet
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:52 PM
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Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting spicy_n_sweet:

Tell him the truth.  If you can't tell the man you chose to spend the rest of your life with the truth.....about anything......there's something wrong there.

Tell him the truth. Let him process it.   Let the cards fall where they may.

that's a terrible idea. If I tell him the truth I come off as not trust worthy. He'll be wondering what else I've lied about.

You surely seem like you can not be trusted You are carrying out a lie and unwilling to tell the truth.   Of course he's going to wonder what else you have lied about.  This is a pretty big lie.  Tell him the truth. Let him process it.  If you have never lied about anything else, that will show over time. If you are actually a trust worthy person, that will also so over time. However, continuing to carry out a lie, and lie even more to try and cover up the lie...will eventually come out (most lies do, you will have to lie about this the rest of your life, build upon lie the rest of your life in order to keep the lie up...what's the odds of you maintaining it forever)  you will be proven to be untrustworthy and he will be far more devastated than he will be if you own up to it now.  

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